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About Stella and the Letters

A warm welcome, to You!

Very glad you have discovered Letters to my Granddaughter!

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I am Stella of Guidance with Granny and have two letters, especially for you … 

Letter 1


Dear Reader

I am sure you are curious about me and why did I choose to write these letters?

A burning desire inside me, to assist and guide when I see misguided steps taken in ignorance, motivated me. It is causing so much unnecessary misunderstandings and heartache.

Not always easy, when it is the younger generation thinking, what do old people know? This is meant to make discovering their own way easier.

Guiding young people in ways to overcome life’s challenges with Guidance with Granny, in the form of Letters To My Granddaughter is the main focus. Assist to help find who they are, what they want and what their vision is. At the same time give perspective on how happy and successful life can be.

Having healthy relationships with yourself and your loved ones are key. Do you really know who you are, most of all, what do you want to achieve in life? What will your lifestyle be?  Become the best You, and realize you might have to change habits to be successful.  

Knowing more about the behaviour of men and woman in love. How to select a partner for a  relationship that will last forever and ever is on the table.

Assisting with old school guidance, to become successful and happy, and talk about topics never discussed at home. Chock-a-block full of ways to find your way through the maze with sometimes alternative options.

My name is Stella and as a teacher, my concern and sympathy lie with the slow and lost ones. All the focus is normally on the top achievers.

Growing up as an only child, generosity and assisting others in need, was a lifestyle. Therefore the example set by my dear parents helping and caring for others is in my genes.

Most importantly with this living experience, I easily see the relationship mistakes my granddaughter makes, mostly out of ignorance. Above all being, at the vulnerable, stubborn stage it is hard to give advice. At long last, the idea of the letters was born.

With these letters, a central-based information foundation is created. Assisting the young adults and leaders of the future, on multi-levels.

Addressing most aspects of life from lifestyle, self-development, find who you are and subsequently, the most important topic, loving relationships.

Developing successful personality habits, preparing for a bright future, a long term relationship and how to be a good friend.

Having Emotional Intelligence to make the best decisions as a leader is crucial, and what is, and how to, have Integrity?

These letters in Guidance with Granny are certainly not in any way professional advice. It is a reflection of my own experiences and what I was taught.

Therefore, forwarding practical experiences in Letters to my Granddaughter, to my dearest only granddaughter Thinette, and those who read the letters.

Finally, enjoy a bit of nostalgia and habits of days gone by, some long forgotten. I would love to hear from you, your opinions or comments. It will be very interesting!

Kind regards


Guidance with Gran Stella

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Letter 2

Why Letters to my Granddaughter?

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A Family Affair

Dear Friend   

Guidance with Granny and Letters to my dear Granddaughter has become my greatest assignment. The purpose of it all is to guide young adults towards success and happiness.

Reminiscing about the good old days, thinking how simple things were, and best of all, how happy we were. Parents were involved and present and all families had close bonds. Is society turning back towards it again?

This journey starts with gratitude.

A Tribute to My Parents

Who they are and what they stand for, made this all possible. They were not perfect by all means, but were balanced, straight forward, honest and down to earth. 

My parents were born very early in the previous century and experienced many world events over nine decades.


Photo of my parents Willie and Mien Kok



My parents

Willie and Mien Kok




They had a wonderful relationship.  She adored him and he was a good provider. There were disagreements in the relationship yes, but never arguments, name-calling or shouting. 

My Foundation.

Both were very wise people and set a perfect example. 

Dad was respected where ever he went. He was a strict man with a very kind heart. Would stick to his values no matter what. With good planning, Dad accomplished a lot on a teachers salary. As an example, my Dad never owed anybody any money. He even bought his cars and houses cash, no debt ever. Dad had the wisdom and patience to wait until he had saved enough to buy cash. He had a second income though, and saved not spent.

Mom was the kindest, caring and most supportive person, an excellent cook and a good organiser. She did all her planning in advance. Making lists of everything. Experience taught her to always have a plan B and never left it until the last moment. Must say she had a Malawian guy, John Maseke as her right-hand. He could do it all, knitting, cooking, dry cleaning, you think of it and he could do it. He was part of the household for 50 years, and with his help, all functions were always done to near perfection.

Money was never too much, just enough, but love and care were in abundance. As an only child, I received it all. They were the best parents and gave me an open mindset to grow. I was and still are, very lucky and proud.

Guidance with Granny is my way to honour and keep the legacy of my parents alive. What I am sharing in these letters, I mostly learned from them.

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The Changes

These letters to my Granddaughter are all about creating a lifestyle with good habits, for a happy and successful life.

I do understand that changes are inevitable. Over time, political, social and family lifestyle changes happen, but in this process, certain core values got lost along the way. 

Looking through the eyes of an old school soul it is hard if you compare with today’s life.  Honest and sincere people, especially in business, in other words, people with integrity is kind of hard to find.

Most people have self-centred images and appearances to maintain. So desperately wanting to fit into a hollow society. It is more important to have an image than being themselves. The poor kids are the ones to suffer most.

The worst of all is the quality of all products. It has been diluted to the extent that you hardly recognise the flavour or taste of the product I grew up with, and at a ridiculous price too. Is there nothing one can do about it?

Our older generation grew up, with a different set of values than the young adults of today. Therefore, makes it hard sometimes, to understand the new ways.

Life has changed, from the warm caring families and close-knit communities to the clinical impersonal cold, competitive societies of today. Why did that happen?

Even the way we eat has changed dramatically. From wholesome natural food to genetically modified synthetic products, hardly recognisable as healthy hearty food.

Forgive me for ranting and raving, all is not bad though. There are many advantages that came with the new millennium. Greater choices worldwide in almost everything. Just think how easy it is to connect with people on the other side of the world.

New technology has also given the world a bigger marketplace. You can buy anything from everywhere in the world without a middle man and are not restricted to just your own country.

The modern techno lifestyle has many advantages, I love it. There are still many good people around making it worthwhile.


This was more than a mouthful, and now you know exactly who Stella is … lol. I am an old soul with a modern twist. 

May it be, that some of the letters interest you enough to read a few. It will be good to hear from you, tells us what you think …… 

Inspire, Motivate and Empower the Next Generation.

Kind regards




These letters are certainly not by any means professional advice. It is a reflection of my own experiences and what I was taught. Therefore, only forwarding practical experiences to my dearest granddaughter Thinette, and for that matter, each one reading.

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