How do I know it is true love Gran, you will ask. That wonderful feeling of happiness, the unique love of my life? Will it just happen, at first sight?
No, unfortunately not, my dear. It is a special bond and has a way to grow slowly and over time. Physical attraction happens in the blink of an eye, but can fade very quickly. Everlasting love does not happen in an instant or overnight, it takes time.
Know your Man
The first step is to know what the man’s values are, his character and vision. Know if they are the same as yours. In contrast, it is not all about physical attraction alone, my dear.
This insight can only be obtained over a period of time with natural behaviour. You have to be sure what you are looking for in a man. Which behaviours are important to you, therefore not negotiable.
Happiness and Love
It is hard to describe the feelings of joy and happiness when a man is honest and sincere with you. Who doesn’t want to have the happy cherished feeling of being loved by someone? Someone who truly love you for who you are? The warmth that melts your heart when you hear his voice or the touch of his hand.
Trusting him comes after he has earned your respect. Therefore, make sure his actions follow his words, my dear, it is so important.
What do Happiness and Love mean to you? How would you describe authentic happiness and authentic love? Do you think you have found it yet?
When you experience it, first of all, you will look to the world differently and your whole perspective change. With it, you will always have a song in your heart and stars in your eyes.
10 Signs of Authentic Happiness and Authentic Love
You are so proud of him, who he is, what he does and his behaviour.
If you feel excited and overjoy when you see his name appear on your phone.
Your heart skips a beat when you hear his voice.
You can not keep your eyes off him.
He is on your mind day and night.
His happiness comes first. Everything you do is with him on your mind first.
Being more open and share more intimate things with him, and in addition, he will do the same. Earning each others trust is primary.
Feel safe and secure with him, and most of all you will trust him with your life.
You have to have that warm happy feeling when around him and want to be with him all the time.
Respect, Appreciate, Adore and Desire him.
When all of these points cannot be marked, my dear, Mr Right has not arrived yet.
It will cause lots of sadness and trouble if you pursue a relationship that is not meant to be.
Discuss and make sure of the fact, that a long term commitment, is what you both want. If not, do not get serious it will cause much sadness and is not worthwhile pursuing.
Relax, just enjoy the company if you want, until you meet the right guy, and it is time to move on.
You will never have happiness if you try to change someone or force a relationship. It has to happen naturally. Leave that for-ever-space in your heart empty for The Special One.
Authentic Happiness Authentic Love
Timing has a lot to do with finding the right one. My belief is, you have to meet the dreams and goals you have set yourself, when you were younger, first
You will not be ready for the true meaningful commitment, if you have not achieved those goals yet. The same applies for him too.
Your Knight in shining Armour will come looking for you when he has achieved his goals and are ready to commit. He will get serious when there are no loose ends hanging around.
It will be an unexpected, exciting moment of surprise when you met.
Have short term goals, knowing where you want to be or what you want to achieve before you settle down. Maybe you want to go backpacking through Europe or do an Ocean swimming marathon before you commit forever.
Start working towards it my darling. The sooner you met that goal the sooner you will be ready, not a moment before.
Having goals and achieving it, most certainly early in your life, is the only way to have personal growth. You have to reach a certain level of maturity to have meaningful relationships.
Only experience can make it happen before you will be able to “live happily ever after”. Don’t sit back wasting your time and stay a child forever. Put your head down, get busy and grow as a individual, my dear.
Having met your Prince, you might want to impress him by looking your best as you think. As a matter of fact, most men would like you to be your natural self. Be natural, be just as you are, he prefers less makeup, no layers and layers of foundation, artificial nails, eyelashes or hair extensions.
Running his fingers through your hair, kissing you without getting blemishes and not risking any injury when you touch him, is what he desires. Keep it simple and leave all those extras for your girl’s night out.
Never be too serious, always be playful and fun to be around, learn to play the flirting game. The way you make him feel when you are around is very important, my dear, it is the deciding factor for him. Make it lighthearted and fun with lots of laughter.
Making him feel loved and special will trigger the switch in his brain and he cannot live without you. Giving him the respect he deserves and telling him, is an important cornerstone to a happy unique relationship.
If you are sure he is the man for you, only then you utter these words that will make him realise you are the one for him too. Tell him how much you Love and Respect him. How much you Appreciate him for the person he is and how much you Adore him.
Put your arms around him, look him in the eye, tell him and seal it with a kiss. Only do this to your very special man and not to every Tom, Dick and Harry.
This is very serious and important, mean what you say and know the reasons why. Never say it, just for the sake of saying.
How to Keep His Attention and Devotion
Romance and Obsession are the way a woman love, and Fun and Sex are the way a man love. Give a man what he desires and you will have a faithful man, not interested in other women.
Remember, he will still look and enjoy other beautiful women. Enjoy watching her with him, commenting on how beautiful her body or legs are.
He will be open with you and, not hiding anything. Be that special woman he has chosen to love and have fun with. Soon you will earn his trust and be The One. He will share everything with and will become obsessed with you.
Game of Love
• The first thing, or maybe, the second thing a man notices about you, is your smile. A contagious smile and laugh, attract a man. He realises you are a person who is happy and easy to please. Smile and laugh often.
His main aim in life is to make you happy and do things you will approve. You won’t believe, how insecure men feel around a grumpy moaning woman. He won’t stay long, because she is hard to please.
• Awaken his emotions. Tune-up the intensity of emotions a man experience in your presence. Create sexual drama with compassion and empathy. The higher the intimate intensity, the more his mind will demand him to claim you.
• Never be too available, you have to stay a challenge all your life.
• A man needs to struggle a little before he can claim what he wants.
Stay a challenge and make him work hard for you, at the same time, make the rewards worthwhile.
Make promises he can’t resist but then play the delaying tactic. “I will do anything you want me to do tonight, but you first have to help me fold the washing and wash the dishes”.
Be flirtatious with him throughout your relationship and married life.
Men love the challenge of game playing for his attention and love. Don’t fall in his lap like an over ripe apple. Be elusive and mysterious my darling. Surprise him, best of all, be his own lap-dancer at home.
Subtle ways of Seduction
Charming a man is 100% mental, it works both ways, but that is only half the pleasure, once that has happened you venture into the creative side of fun. Become a revelation, be enthusiastic, pour all your vigour and vitality into moments and nights of pleasure.
He has to know you are his lover. Beneath that everyday woman, there is a passionate tiger waiting to let loose, only he can arouse that animal in you.
Take care not to become mediocre and predictable.
Choose your battlefield well, where and when. Will it be in the kitchen, under the stars, a bar, with candlelight, by the pool, in public, in the car or rather, the bedroom. The options are endless.
Tools of Seduction
Being confident is the best tool of all and always the winner.
• Show a little and hide a little. There is a certain way to dress that drives a man crazy, but never too slutty or revealing. Steer clear of the obvious, dresses too revealing or shorts too short. You know what you have, but, on the other hand, it is for him to find out. When you are his woman and in a committed relationship, he will not want you to advertise out loud what are your assets.
• The power of scent. Men love a good smelling woman and can get amorous because of pheromones in perfume.
Enhance the moment by using aromatic oils, giving him a body massage e.g. choose between sandalwood, ylang-ylang, jasmine, patchouli mixed with a carrier oil like coconut oil. It is known for its aphrodisiac properties. Make perfume a recognizable part of you.
• Be super CONFIDENT. Have the confidence of a supermodel no matter your size or weight.
Take the lead when seducing him in the bedroom, forget about being shy, give him the lap dance of his life and enjoy it as much as he does. Become a Cleopatra and show him who is in control. Men love it when you instigate sex and take charge.
• A woman who knows what she wants and knows how to get is a huge turn on. Never overdo it, it might be arrogant, always have that shy playful element around.
• Renew yourself. Don’t stay the boring same all the time. Change your clothes, lose weight, cut your hair, get a total makeover. Stay fresh, change your persona frequently being happy, inquisitive, sporty and find new interests.
• Magic of anticipation. Excitement and tension can be a huge turn-on for men. Make him earn his time with you. Delay gratification, take two steps ahead and one step back.
Create a strong feeling of frustration and dissatisfaction, which can only be solved by having you. Give him flirtatious attention and then withdraw and ignore him for a minute or two. Keeping busy with something else and then get back to him, in other words, contradict yourself, play hot and cold in a loving seductive way.
• The power of exotic dancing. Learn to slow dance all by yourself with snake-like moves. Arms up high and slowly bring them down one sliding down the other and then stroke your body all over as you turn around and move your hips. Do it to the rhythm of a song without looking at him, giving him the feeling of a peeping Tom.
This can also be done when you slowly get rid of your clothes. You will make his day or rather night if you can lose your inhibitions and enjoy the moment in confidence. His eyes will most probably, only be on the midsection of your body, the rest is not that important, no matter your age.
• Some items to enhance the moment will bring an interesting edge to the occasion like killer lingerie, blindfolds, long strings of pearls, silky scarves, feathers, toys and bracelets
… using them seductively and naughty.
Forget what society says and create a world of your own, remember there is no taboo if it is consensual.
Send him flirty naughty text messages even if he is in the room next door. Your phone can be a great partner in crime to seduce him.
Have initiative, passion, enthusiasm and be creative, make him feel you are a different woman every time. Change your look, technique and scenery.
On a more serious note
Everybody has a conscious mind and an unconscious mind. Emotions and feelings are determined by your subconscious mind which in return is the keeper of your happiness.
Remember your behaviour and your thoughts feed your unconscious mind and that mirrors your mood and your feelings. If you feed your man good words and good vibrations it will have an influence on his behaviour and feelings towards you.
Make him feel good and special around you and for this reason he will get addicted to you. There are three words that should spell out your feelings towards him.
No, my dear, it is not ” I love you ” it is indeed, RESPECT, APPRECIATION and ADORATION.
You only say it to the man who deserves it and you are serious with … don’t mess with this my dear, because, this will make a man addicted to you.
Tell him you Respect him, Appreciate him and most of all Adore and Desire him, in that order and say why.
Here are a few examples
• Respect him for being such a hard worker, working long hours for your future, and most noteworthy, the way he treats his parents. This is what every man crave. [choose your own reasons]
• Appreciate him for being a loving faithful, and best of all, an honest partner. [choose your reasons]
• Adore him for being the best partner and lover anyone can ever have, most of all, you can’t live without him. [choose your own reasons]
Desire him and only him. Tell him how much you want him and want feel his arms around you, holding you tight.
Repeat this almost every day, finding new things to honour him. It will make him very happy, and best of all, you will appreciate him more. No matter how old you are or how long you have been together, as long as you mean every word.
No Age Restriction
Never think it only happens when you are young my dear, it gets even better as you get older.
When a committed relationship fails, it most probably is because one or more of these cornerstones, Respect, Appreciation, Adoration and Desire are missing. They are most probably not honoured.
A woman has to have a desire for intimacy and, most of all, admit the fact that she is enjoying it too. When you see how he adores, admires and desires you it will change something in you. Show him your adoration, admiration and desire he will be ecstatic and make you his Queen.
Not all men are the same, as a matter of fact, you will have to find the way to your man’s heart your own way, consequently and he will find his way to conquer yours.
Unique Happiness and Love with Granny
The joy of true love is the feeling of authentic happiness and authentic love. There is nothing better in life than to be with him and share your life with him. Find the signs of true love and, cherish it, my dear.