Falling In Love Staying In Love

Dearest Thinette

Thinette my Granddaughter.

Instinctively you want to shower him with your attention, love and care, but that is not a good idea. It could mean the end of a good relationship. Read more and find out what a man wants to stay in love.

True love really exists my dear, if you have not felt it, you have not fallen in love yet!

Your Dream Man

Nothing feels as good and makes you happier than having a man loving you truly from his heart. Giving you his devotion, undivided attention, making you feel special and the only woman that matters. He wants to be with you, furthermore, do things with you and for you. He wants to give you the world.

I am pretty sure you will hardly ever find him in the early years of your adult life because most men are still on a learning curve, experiencing, having good fun, for that matter, he is not ready.

Use your time wisely

That is the time you have to enjoy exploring too. It is not the time to look for a serious relationship, because the men you are interested in, are just not ready to settle down. The serious men who want to settle down are older and are seldom in the groups you are mixing in now.

Have fun and enjoy your youth without trying to settle too quickly, it will be a huge mistake, my dear. Most of the time it is with the wrong person and will cause many unhappy and sad moments.

When you are older and know what you want you will find your man. Men calmed down the older they get, and therefore know what they want.

How to Make A Man Fall In Love With You kissing a woman's hand falling in loveA man has to be ready to get serious, he has to feel secure and confident in his career before come looking for a long term relationship.

They also get sick and tired of the hollow dating scene and fun and sex.  Most of them have established their careers, know what they want and feel much more confident.

Be Selective

To find a man in an ordinary bar is not an ideal place if you want a keeper unless it is a high-class specialised bar. Guys in local bars are not ready to settle down and are still on the fun and fool around phase.

Find a guy who has the same interests as you, for instance at a sports club, charity events, church, business seminars, visit top restaurants, etc. They will most probably have the same interests and values and it will be a much better chance of finding your man.

When you have caught his eye and he is interested too, what now my love?

Learn the Art of Flirting.

Flirting is al about establishing a connection that will lead to a love relationship. There are verbal and non-verbal flirting. One is more subtle than the other. Playful interaction with eyes and a smile is the most common. It is an act you can learn, my dear.

Have a few dates to make sure he is as interested as you are. Do you have a lot in common and can you start trusting each other? Invite him to join you and friends at a sporting event. See if he is comfortable, take part and fits in with the group.

How to make a man fall in love with you, keep him interested and devoted to you has all to do with his primal needs, my dear.

Capture his Mind, Caress his Ego and take Care of his Soul.

A Man and His Mission

A man set goals and is always on a mission. When a man is serious about something, he wants to be the victor of every goal he sets in his life. Everything is a challenge and he must be the champion whether it is a race or a business deal. Men are competitive creatures from birth, my love.

Most of all, he wants to be the conqueror of the most valuable prize of his heart… You! How do you create this contest to become the ultimate winner of his heart?

Ways to Capture His Mind

 Secrets to a Man’s Love

  •  Men need a challenge to ‘win’. Keep him winning your attention repeatedly. Never become comfortable and too easily accessible. Let him ‘deserve’ a date with you, occasionally let him earn it, even when you are married.

  • It is good to keep specific evenings for dates, at least once a week. You don’t have to go out, have a private date at home, just the two of you, lock the doors and switch off the phones. Organize with a friend to take care of the kids overnight and next time you return the favour.

  • How to make a man fall in love with you, lock on door and give him special attention.Make him conscious how important you are, having you by his side will enhance the quality of his life tremendously. Every man wants a great woman by his side.

  • A way to create value is staying away for a while with good reason, go out with lady friends, go and visit your parents, go on a course at work, etc.

  • It will leave an emptiness making him aware how much he misses you, imagining a life without you will be detrimental. He will realize your value and be more dedicated.

  • A man wants a woman who has a calming effect and brings happy feelings in his life. Men are programmed to move towards things and people who create the feel GOOD and happy feelings and will move away the moment something feels BAD and heavy.

  • Make him feel he is the most important and best person in your life. Shower him with compliments and mean it, especially his physic, he wants reassurance every day.

  • A man wants to be in a relationship which makes him feel good.How to Make A Man Fall In Love With You Couple arguing Never turn a relationship into your emotional dumping ground, blaming or accusing him.

  • The best attitude is to be happy and fun to be with. Smile and laugh often, it shows him, it is easy to make you happy.

  • Find a specific place and time to discuss bad influences threatening the relationship. Do in a calm manner and deal with it in a unified way.

  • Ask each other’s advice, listen and compromise. You can say anything and everything you want to him and have his deep appreciation for you, as long he feels you are on his side.

  • Never accuse, blame or make him feel like you are opposing him, that is conflict. In a healthy relationship, a man wants to share his emotions with someone he can trust, just like you, whether it is good news or bad.

  • Never try to change the character of your partner. To have a complete relationship you must accept and enjoy each other as unique individuals.

  • Don’t try to conform and change your partner to your needs. Relax, love and enjoy who he /she is, stop having concerns and worries, let go and let be! Things you find important might be destroying your relationship causing your man to pull away.

  • Why did he not text me back or call me? Remember your man is a Hunter! Single-track minded with good reason and his focus is on his goal of the moment.

  • It all goes back to ‘winning‘ the challenge of the moment. Woman with smartphone textingAnything outside that target is a distraction from his mission. Texting or calling is the last thing on his mind and has nothing to do with you or what you did.

  • A man wants to feel acts of love from you too. Unconsciously they expect your love back it the same way they show their love to you. It is the only way they will recognize it.

How do you show the love the way he will recognize?

Priorities

Make it your priority to understand the way your man loves.

  • Love and romance have been confused with wants and needs as much as a need for oxygen. All his acts of love can be romantic if you know his love language.

  • You might have an image of what love means to you, On the other hand, your man has an image what love means to him. These two images can be worlds apart, with unnecessary misunderstandings as a result.

Many women have a man that loves them deeply and show it to her in his way. She never appreciates it, because, she does not know his love language.

  • Simply look at the way he is showering you with his love. What are his surprises? Pay attention to special personal little acts of love, is it words of love and praise, hugs and kisses leading to the bedroom. Is it small gifts he comes home with or things he does for you to make you feel special, maybe cook you your special meal.

  • You will immediately recognize his acts of love and that is the way to love him back. Keep it balanced and don’t go overboard, giving too much will make him bored.

The X-Factor in a Relationship

Confidence Confidence Confidence. Be sure of who you are and what you have and what you want. This makes all the difference, my dear.

Before you enter a serious relationship, my dear makes sure, first of all, you both know who you are. Be happy with the person you are and the body you have. Inspire and support each other to keep growing within, together and separate my dear.

The magic ingredient for all successful happy relationships is, most importantly, Self-Development. You must be prepared and willing to develop on different levels, to be independent financially or psychologically, spiritually, romantically, sexually and physically, make it your mission to achieve it.

How to Make A Man Fall In Love With You Sexy confident woman

You are an individual earning the right to live a happy life all by yourself. Don’t depend on other people or goods, or a situation to make you happy. Admittedly, this is the way to make a man fall in love with you forever and ever.

Love you.

Grandma Stella

Gran Stella

Inspire Motivate And Empower The Next Generation

8 Comments on “Falling In Love Staying In Love”

  1. Amazing post and very timely!

    My daughter is having trouble figuring out the love acts of her new man. She recently hurt herself and was surprised that he seemed unconcerned, did not ask how she was, and then he took off with friends and did not invite her. This is not what he was like in the early days.

    She is feeling left out and unhappy. I want to give her some hope, so do you have any advice?

    1. Hi Irma the best advice I can give her is to focus on her own life and pleasures now.

      Show him you have a life of your own which is great and much more fun than what he has to offer right now and you don’t need him to make you happy.
      Never sit and wait for him, get up and do your own thing.
      Say nothing just act differently.

      Go out with girlfriends in a group and have lots of fun, maybe activities he likes.
      If he asks her to go with him somewhere she can just say sorry but I have already made plans. Not this time but next time it will be great. Let him sit on the sideline in a natural way, never be vindictive.

      He must get the feeling he might lose her if he does not pay attention.
      Do it for a while not just once. He must get the feeling of being left out and missing a lot.

      If you browse around there are more letters on Relationships, the Authentic Happiness Authentic Love is another good one to read, try them all.
      Thank you for a very inspiring comment, and hope it will solve the problem!
      Stella

  2. I am a guy, and I find this legit to be honest.

    It is in all honesty really that simple, girls are overthinking and when something goes wrong, they’ll start beating themselves up.

    Really thankful for this article, very informative and helpful.

    Kayin

    https://smartaffiliateparadise.com

    1. Deep down all women are insecure, that is why.
      They always want your approval and want to make sure you are happy with her.
      Women are always been made out as the witches but it is not always the case.
      Misunderstandings from both sides makes for unnecessary unhappy feelings.
      I would appreciate if you want to make recommendations from a man’s perspective.
      Thank you for a very motivational comment.
      Stella

  3. Hello Stella,
    Great Article! I really liked the last section the X Factor in a relationship. If you don’t know yourself how can you truly give yourself to someone else. How can you inspire the person you wake up and go to bed with everyday? I also liked that you said “Men needs a challenge to ‘win’. Keep him winning your attention repeatedly” because men are natural hunters and gatherers so they look for challenges in life.

    1. So many people go through life never find the real self, the partner will be fake and always chasing an image.
      Missing to live life to their full potential is very sad.
      Oh yes many are guilty of trying to mould someone to their liking, us women can be the guilty ones sometimes.
      It is the worst mistakes of all, one can make.
      Thank you for a valuable comment Rianna, I appreciate you stopping by.
      Stella

    1. I appreciate your comment Agnes!
      Isn’t it strange to see how many people still try to change a partner.
      It is a sure recipe for disaster en will never bring happiness.
      Thank you for stopping by.
      All the best to you.
      Stella

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