Letter 3. Foundation to your Future.



Dear Thinette

Thinette my granddaughter

Foundation to your Future. Select your own choices, first of all, develop a mind of your own and live the life you want to. Start building the foundation to your future, most importantly, with warmth and caring self-love. Make sure to make informed decisions.

The whole wide world is waiting. You have a new adventure on hand, most importantly, building the foundation for your future. Success and, best of all, happiness is lurking on the horizon, go and get it, my dear.

Background on the Past.

Growing up, you are part of a family, most of all, living according to your parent’s point of view. In the process, giving you the basic upbringing, you were exposed to a certain behaviour. 

Coming of age, in contrast, you have to parent yourself now.

Select and find your own pattern, because, you have become a different person, most of all, having your own opinion.

No one teaches you how to do it, therefore, the easiest way is to follow what you have seen at home, but, it is not who you are.

The biggest influence in your life is the cultural and family habits. Some of these habits form part of a control system for generations, which keeps you from being who you want to be.

You get taught not to think for yourself by the system.  Being too strict, with the do-as-I-say attitude, was the norm. In the past it might have worked, but most definitely not with the Millennium kids. Knowledge is the key, and above all, your own strong opinions. 

Families tend to have family traditions, some are good and some are not so good. All I know is, when it is, as a result, restricting your thoughts and mind, it is not good.

It is also part of a system from schools and churches, for instance, to manipulate people in a subtle way to fit into a social pattern. Walking the streets like obedient faceless ghosts, subsequently, too afraid to do or say something out of the ordinary.

For this reason, so many people are unhappy as adults. To build the foundation of your future is, first of all, to find your own way, it is very important.

Planning My Future Life

New Attitude

Let’s sweep your mind a clean slate my dear, in fact, just keep the good manners, and most of all, the integrity you have learned at home.

Break loose, but, stay the loving family member by becoming your own person, without judgement. Every generation has to change and adapt for survival, therefore, your parents went through the same process with their parents.

Walk away from the flock of sheep, and best of all, become unique.

Planning My Future Life Sheep being different than the flock.

Start building your basis on knowledge, my darling,  best of all, find what makes you happy and where you want to go. Be specific and name your destination, furthermore, what are the dreams and how you want to achieve it.

Planning My Future Life


Where do you see yourself in forty years time, above all, when and where to retire. I know I know … you are not thinking of that at this stage of your life, but, you should.

Did you know, the main purpose of you getting a job, consequently, working all your life, securing a good retirement plan?

No one realises or even think of it in that way.

How would you hope to spend your life at my age?  Living a financially, carefree happy life, for instance, having enough money to live your dream comfortably. In contrast, you probably will be living in someone’s backyard waiting for handouts?

Planning My Future Life hands holding out for handouts in life.



Now is the time to think and evidently, start planning.


If you can think it,  most certainly, you can do it!   

Great granddad Willie always said, “Every problem can be solved, no matter how difficult the obstacle, there is always a way out.”

Analyse the problem,  first of all, break it up into sections and start solving it step by step.

Think out the box or around it.

Planning My Future Life

Let’s dream big:

Your Possible Destinations.

• You will be on the Mediterranean on your yacht with friends.

• Travelling in luxury around the world, furthermore, visit all the countries you want.

Planning My Future Life Travel in luxury, 2 glasses of champagne in luxury resort.

•Live in the mansion of your dreams, in addition, driving a supercar.

Maybe you want it all, therefore, your planning should be accordingly. Give it your all and plan diligently.

Anything and everything in life is possible, but, there are certain conditions to achieve it.

Planning My Future Life

  Setting goals and achieving dreams.

 Planning My Future Life Girl with note book and laptop setting goals.

•   Do some thorough Planning

•   The four D‘s are essential

Is desire big enough to get what you want, first of all, find the WHY?

Discipline and Determination to achieve it, most importantly,

Dedication holds the key.

Having the correct mindset, as well as, perseverance are absolute important attributes.

Planning My Future Life

Foundation to your Future.


• To get recognition in life, first of all, you have to become an authority in your field of knowledge, darling Thinette. Search research and gain the ability to be the expert, therefore, read it and make it your own to become an authority with the best skill.

• Never be forward with your knowledge.

• Listen and  Observe.

• Always be the last to speak.


Planning My Future Life


Next page in your journal.

• Find your ultimate goals in life and, best of all, write them down.

• How do I make the best choices, and in the process, be happy and successful? Search for a good Mentor to lead you.



Building the foundation to your future, my dear is, first of all, have a plan with goals. Setting goals, most importantly, goals with deadlines. It is the only way to achieve success.

The sooner you start, the sooner you will see and earn the fruit of your hard-earned labour, and in the process, making retirement a dream come true.


Love you.

Granny Stella.

Granny Stella


18 Comments on “Letter 3. Foundation to your Future.”

  1. Hi Stella,

    Another great letter to your granddaughter. Anyone reading this will also get some help and guidance. With the list of personality characteristics that you had, i was able to assess myself. Thanks to this.

    1. Thank you for a very inspiring comment.
      Glad to know it will serve a greater purpose as I originally thought.
      Keep on reading.

  2. This is a very good post! It reminds me of some of the fundamentals in a book I’m reading right now called “The code of the extraordinary mind”. I really recommend you read it as it contains very important training on not just Learning but also HOW TO LEARN! The most important thing to learn at all. Unfortunately, most places of education never teach the kids this so they end up not learning and hating school instead.

    Thanks for another great letter!

    1. I will definitely read this book.
      All this old fashioned kind of teachings are nowhere to be found.
      It is so true everything is of a lesser kind and focus on irelavant issues. Thank yoy for a very good point you are making.
      Enjoy reading.

  3. This is so different, I love how your advice is through letters, very creative and beneficial at the same time! Thank you!

    1. Thanks for approving the style Sahar!
      The only way to reach the young.
      Many more letters to come.
      Happy reading

  4. I am beginning to see Stella needs to turn this into a full fledged book for the masses both young and older.

    Wonder what each one of us who are reading Stella’s letters might do, or might have done, with all these great thoughtful words of wisdom had we received letters like these in earlier times.

    I hope that all who are fortunate to have grandchildren might take the time to at least share these letters with the grandkids. I am sure the current generation would not understand the meaning of a handwritten set of letters like this from their grandparent(s). I might be wrong and would be more than happy to admit my wrong thinking!

    1. Thank you Barry for you motivating comment. I just honour the wisdom of my wise parents. My greatest wish is if it can only benefit one young one.
      Knowing it is a hard task to reach them from this angle when their minds are just focused on all the pleasures life has to offer.
      Staying hopeful

  5. Hi Stella. This is great advice for everyone. To move away from the mindless herd mentality that is so prevalent within societies is so important if we wish to achieve satisfaction and fulfillment in life. Setting goals is the way to begin creating the future that we desire for ourselves.
    I wished someone had asked me to consider where I wanted to be 40 years down the road when I was young! What a great way to get a young mind to consider what they want to achieve in their lives.
    Thanks for sharing 🙂

    1. Thank you Andrew it is a challenge to get the young motivated to think this way and to realise the importance of thinking and planning if your mind is only focused on the the pleasures in life. Hopefully they will come to their sences in time as we know how important it is.

  6. Hi Stella,

    Another great letter. You are so right when you say that school, teachers and the culture lead you on the path of basically a zombie. Do this, do that, obey the rules, don’t think for yourself. So many people are like sheep living a life of quiet desperation as Thoreau said.

    Your granddaughter is so lucky…no…I don’t like the word lucky, she is blessed to have someone like you in her life,


    1. If people will just realise those who dictate the zombie rules are using you for there own benefit.

      Thank you for a very motivatng comment I appreciate it.


  7. Yes, if you can think it, you can do it, absolutely. great advice Stella, and Yes I like the part about dreaming big and breaking away from the sheep and being unique, wow! amazing. Desire big enough to get what you want, that quote should be on a T-shirt.
    Thank you, Stella. great post

    1. If only we will realise how controlled and manipulative our society is. I want to shake people and wake up them up to be their own uniquely self, not a follower but become a leader.
      You are an original … no other one like you.
      Thank you for another great comment Rose!

  8. Thank you sweeheart, this was very encouraging to hear. I am grateful for people like you. This was sound advice, you should not give up until you get where you want to go! Dedication is important.

    1. Hi Robert
      Glad you found it a good read.
      The motivation and dedication is there thank you.
      Thanks for your comment.

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