Have you ever had that lost feeling and regret as high as a mountain?
Tears running down your cheeks thinking it is the end of everything?
Staring blankly into emptiness with a hollowness from top to toe?
Well my darling there is a way to cure it all, hang on and listen carefully. ‘Get your ex back’ is your mantra for the time being.
It will be hard but you have to forget about him at the moment, get new inspiration and focus on yourself. You are on a mission now!
It all went sour maybe because you act or looked a certain way and he became bored, maybe you were demanding.
You have to know, a man loses interest when the relationship stagnates. It might not have challenges he wants to pursue, or it has become the dumping ground of all your problems and negativity, blaming him.
A man wants to be around a happy and fun-loving person, if not he will go and find it somewhere else.
Feel free! Now is the time for a big shift and change in your life.
How do I do it?
Stop all contact with him at once. Stop stalking him. Don’t have the slightest intention or wish to message him, he detests it. In his mind he is done with the relationship and don’t want to see or hear from you.
Men will say anything to keep you quiet and happy, it will not be the truth or how they really feel. They will not do what they say, just fade away and never contact you again. Did you hear what I just said my dear?
If they call and say they still love you and want to see you, do not fall for it, it is their way to validate that you still desired him and he is not a failure. Break totally and keep it that way.
Don’t give in! First become a new person he will fall in love all over again. Don’t mess this up!
Forget about having an agenda or plans to get him back, that will happen by itself, if it is meant to be. Find new friends with the same interests as you and avoid mixing in the same crowd as he.
Don’t worry there will always be someone who will keep him informed of all you are doing, and the more active you are in a group the better. Forget about him.
Focus on becoming a better version of yourself FOR yourself. Grow into this goddess you always wanted to be.
Hint, stay out of his site, avoid all visual contact, at events and parties keep your old image till you are ready, making the surprise more exciting.
Society puts so much pressure, it is time you break those bondage and become who you really are.
Plan of action.
BECOME CONFIDENT. Believe in yourself and your dreams, make them your goals and say to yourself ‘ I will do it!’. Dream big and let no one convince you otherwise. Walk tall!
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. What do you really want to achieve in life? Do you want to travel or have a career, have a family or stay single? Forget about your Ex and outside influences, you have to find what makes YOU happy!
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Now is the time to change to who YOU want to be, without any interference The image of the little doll everybody else wants you to be, has to go out the door. Take a hard look in the mirror, and love the person you see, fat, wrinkles, freckles, cellulite and all.
See if there are some improvements you want to make. How long have you had the same hairstyle, the same way you do your makeup? Would you like to have a firm body? Get going and make the improvements, focus, exercise and achieve the goal you have set, but keep the glasses, dull hairstyle and big clothes to keep the old image hiding your new. When time is ready, you change to an unrecognizable new you!
You are now the most important person in your life
KEEP LEARNING. Improve yourself. You might have an interest you always wanted to pursue, gain a new skill and become good at it. Get out your comfort zone and grow. Now is the time for those guitar lessons you always wanted or become an online business woman. To become more motivated find a mentor and follow his advice. In business, I would think of Dan Lok, mindfulness to develop consciousness Pandanani is a good example, there are so many good mentors to look at.
STAY INDEPENDENT. Society has conditioned a woman to be dependent and to serve. Strive to have a life filled with happiness and joy of your own. A partner will come into your life, share and add to your happiness and you will add and share his life and happiness. Two individuals having separate lives joined together becomes a perfect circle. Think of it as double pleasure, instead of one boring struggle.
SEEK HELP. When heartache, sadness and loneliness is crushing you inside, reach out to someone you trust with your feelings. Have a good cry and talk and find new strength. The trust you show in them will strengthen the bond too and will mean so much to them.
HAVE YOUR OWN OPINION. Never feel afraid to speak up and say what is on your heart. Your opinion matters. Be more assertive, and learn to say no. Demand behaviour that makes you happy. There are ways to say it, be mature and diplomatic, never hurt someone’s feelings.
LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES. If you don’t have mistakes you are not growing as a person. Learn from it and take responsibility to be accountable for your own mistakes. Was it a wrong decision … Apologize … and make sure never to repeat the same mistake again.
This was your mission to change into this beautiful butterfly, enjoying sparkling happiness in sunshine. You have changed for a better stronger You.
Now you are ready my dear
You have reached your goal to be who you always wanted to be.
Change into this new goddess, new hairstyle, new natural makeup, new clothes and new body. Make these physical changes too just before a party you both are invited too. You are ready for this new life you have created.
Keep the element of surprise, arrange with a friend who understands the situation to accompany you. Make a grand entrance and stay out of your Ex’s way, ignoring him, laughing and enjoying the party as if he is not there.
This new sparkling you will be an eye catcher my dear and you might have a few more new followers too.
Enjoy all the attention and make better choices, be yourself.
The right one will find the new you very enchanting. and fall in love with you for the right reasons, the real independent you, not a puppet or a doormat.
The new You might not even inspire to get your Ex back my love.