Who are you really? What influences you, and how does it affect your personality and your relationship with others? Do you want to know how to discover your true identity my dear?
Gran so many questions!
Yes, all are necessary, answer a few and do a few and you find the real you. Your personality reflects who you really are and your character defines your habits and routines, and in between there is your reputation.
Identity is what you are known for. It develops over a period of time. Circumstances, situations and the people around you have a great influence on you, best is to find your core values and build around that.
The moment you know what you want you start creating a presence which becomes your identity. Some people are lucky and know in their teens already what they want from life. Others not so lucky are searching their whole life,
Now it the perfect time to find your identity. Establish what you want, develop a strong presence with your values in place to guide you. When you have chosen your mission and know where you are going with it, make a commitment and stay true to yourself.
Ask yourself Why?
Asking Why and explain every time is a way to get to the truth. It is our built in moral compass. You should ask Why up to three times minimum, I have even went so far as asking nine times to get to the real truth, on the same question.
There is no such thing as a yes or no answers my dear, every question deserves a full explanation. This method will help you get through the layers of excuses you have created for so many years.
As an example, I asked myself, ‘Why do I write these letters?’
Answer: My mission is to help you darling Thinette and other young people who are asking questions.
Why? By observing, I see so many mistakes being made out of ignorance, not knowing a better way.
Why? Some of it can be stubbornness, but mostly because of inexperience.
Why? Modern life is difficult, and you are not being guided properly.
Why? Everybody is very competitive and self-centred.
Why? It will interfere with their selfish ways. Very few people are kind enough, who cares and will take the time to help others. Therefore it is important for me to assist and guide where I can.
You can create your own list of questions important to you and answer it with the Why method.
How do you See yourself?
Answer these questions, and then ask ‘Why’ to every answer my darling.
What are your values? Why?
And what is important to you? Why?
Do you love and respect who you are? Why?
What is my mission in life? Why?
Can my mission become my career? How and Why?
Can I express your own opinions and feelings? Why?
What do I mean by core values, my dear? Your values have a great influence on the identity you create. It is the characteristics that motivates your behaviour and guide all the decisions you make,
There will be different values more important to you than others. Following is a list of many characteristics, you can select those important to you.
Honest and trust
Patience, kindness and love
Courage and reliability
Knowledge, creativity and personal growth
Loyalty and commitment
Consistency and efficiency
Patience and perseverance
Choose from the list of many characteristics. Again I repeat, make a commitment and stay true, because that will form the basis of your identity, my love. If you chop and change, or jump from one to the other, you will never know who you are.
One thing to remember, you become like the five friends closest to you. You pick up their habits and mindset. Take a close look around you be critical and ask yourself, is that who you want to be? Thus, be careful who you spend your time with.
It is very important to associate with successful people, especially people you respect. You will adapt their habits and mindset, it will become your mission too.
Your identity and what your habits are will inevitably have a great influence on your mission and goals in your life. The foundation is already laid at home, school and college. Now is the time to add the finishing touches, likewise, you can reinvent what your identity will to be, along, with your own twist on it.
In the practical world, there are certain rules and regulations to keep everything in good order. In short, it will have influences and impacts on the development of the new advanced You, but do not let society dictate who you want to be.
What is my identity
Five Ways to find out.
• Define your personality type.
• Changing habits to new better ones. One way is to set a routine for your day, that is the beginning of the new you. Getting up early at the break of day is number one.
• Where does weakness come from? Is it fear or inadequacy?
• How to conquer it all.
• Valuable Characteristics.
No, it is not your name, address, phone or family ties, these are, as a matter of fact, your official information for statistics. We are going to delve deeper than skin deep to find the real Thinette and, in the process, what makes her happy.
Get to your emotional world and, most certainly, what is it You want, no matter. There is only one chance we all have, furthermore only one life. Give it the best you can and create your happiness.
Remember, You are the most important person in your life. Protect your persona. Establish a strong relationship with yourself. In every situation, find your position first, and find a solution from that advantage point. Stay in communication with yourself, have a dialogue on a regular basis. Find new ways to become who you want to be.
Know Who You Are in Every Situation
Start with “I am Thinette, and then the position you hold. You are the most important person in all positions.
I am Thinette and are currently a PA at a company, I applied for a position elsewhere and it can change any day.
At the moment I amThinette, teaching kids, at this school but I have selected to apply to another school elsewhere.
I am Thinette and are at the moment managing L&M Industries, but it can change because I am planning to go and work on river cruises in Europe next summer.
I am Thinette and have a relationship with Jack while we are still in love.
Do you get it, my dear? You stay the person you are, it is the base of your existence. It is just the position that changes, therefore you have to establish a very strong personality and know who Thinette is.
Develop a strong Self and Identity that will never change. You will be able go on after any onslaught from outside, You will always have direction. A mentally strong woman knows where she is going. Will therefore never lose her identity because she is on a mission. The core never changes only the trimmings.
Filling a position at work or at home definitely does not define or change who you are. It is just what you do at that moment. You are never the title nor position. Every position in life is temporary and nothing is certain, only You are forever.
Find Your Personality Type
Lets determined what personality type you are:
• Are you a positive, outgoing, bubbly, person seeing the glass as half full, for that reason, always happy and see the bright side of life. Fun to be with?
• In contrast, never satisfied, always negative, moaning, grumpy, nagging and worst of all demanding?
• Afraid, shy, anti-social, therefore, lonely with very little confidence?
• Are you a person with integrity, sincere, loyal, dependable, honest and most of all trustworthy?
• Not always telling the truth, cheating, in addition, depending on others to make you happy and do things for you, being a miss Know-it-All, always knowing better?
• Sporty, artistic or musical, in other words, do you have a hobby?
• Are you a good listener, and at the same time, can you hold a good conversation, knowing what goes on in the world and therefore be interesting?
• Self-centered, boring, shallow-minded, and as a result, housing a small mind and a small world?
• Do you have good friends, most importantly, what are they like and what do they say about you?
Mark all the ones you recognize yourself in, and at the same time, mark the ones you want to change.
Decide who you want, the new Thinette to be, in short start changing old bad habits and have better self-worth.
Changing Bad Habits
Know what your new Habits will be in order to create your success.
Plan your next day the night before
A set routine for your day.
Get up early in the morning and make your bed. The first task is done.
Drink two glasses of water.
Exercise for 15 – 20 min.
Relax and rest your muscles while reading an inspirational book for 10 min.
Get your tasks done from the easiest to the hardest. With the easier ones off your list, it motivates you to tackle the harder ones.
Or you might want to do it the other way round, tackle the hard ones first while you are fresh and then the easier ones. It is your choice, do what will work best for you.
Each task should serve a purpose.
Get up from your desk and take frequent breaks, but come back after 5 min and continue.
Finish what you have planned for the day, in short, push through until all is done.
Before you go to bed plan your next day.
It is said that you can subsequently change habits in twenty-one days with repetitive action and it will become a lifestyle.
Find the habit that will be the easiest to change, replace it with your new behaviour.
Practice the new behaviour every time and certainly, never thinking to go back to the old bad habit.
Repeat until you feel comfortable it has become part of your new lifestyle, after that, move to the next.
These new chosen characteristics must become your new lifestyle, to a happy and confident Thinette.
Weaknesses and Challenges
To be honest with yourself is one thing, but never easy to admit.
A clever way to use weaknesses is to make them motivators for the change you want.
At the core of most weaknesses is laziness.
There might be a few culprits hiding in the dark corners, my dear. How about miss Procrastination, miss Lazy, miss Party Animal, miss TV Monster, or Internet games champion wasting precious time.
To really become successful you, have to recognise and face all the gremlins hampering you in your success. Get rid of them one by one. Find your own way to do it, but the best way is to do it immediately.
Teach yourself to overproduce on all your tasks, my love, give it 110%.
Have strict discipline rules with yourself, and in 18 months you will be the new you.
How To Conquer It All
Confidence and Self-esteem
There might be a more serious issue. It most probably is something an adult or a friend said years ago, and you are still dragging it with you.
See it for what it is, as a matter of fact, the other person might have been insecure and just said it to hurt or draw you down. Sometimes it can be a failure, you subsequently can’t accept. l
Now is the time to get rid of them all, first of all, you won’t need the memory that haunts you. Sit back and finally, see it in perspective.
Analyses more so see it for what it was. Say to yourself, it is part of the past, therefore put it in a box and throw it in the dustbin.
You are a much stronger person now and has grown past the obstacle. Get rid of it, step on it and crush it, most importantly it doesn’t matter anymore.
Make the decision to turn that into a motivating factor, move on to become the new you.
Do not ever respond to challenges or situations immediately if you are not sure. Rather, say I will come back to you and observe to evaluate. See each challenge as an opportunity to grow. Each situation can be a gift, do not let it slip by.
Forget about any weaknesses, erase it from your memory and turn it into a positive. Let it motivate and inspire you, making you a stronger person.
Start by loving yourself, even more so, all of yourself. Be your best self!
Key To Happiness
Your emotions and feelings are determined by your subconscious mind which in return is the keeper of your happiness.
Remember your behaviour and your thoughts feed your unconscious mind and that mirrors your mood and your feelings.
By having an open-heart, being honest, sincere, truthful and caring you feed your unconscious mind and spirit what it needs. Most of all you are projecting the emotional healthiness which makes you a happy person.
Never become mediocre and disappear in the flock walking the streets.
Stay strong and be your authentic self.
Make your own choices and own them.
The most valuable sought after characteristics you want to have are honesty, trustworthiness, being dependable, positive and a good listener.
Follow these principles and you will be a confident person with integrity which everybody can depend on.
No money in the world can buy that my dear.