Letter 2

A Family Affair

Envelope with seal of approval

Dear Friend

Letters to my dear Granddaughter has become my greatest assignment. The purpose of it all is to guide young adults towards success and happiness.

Reminiscing about the good old days, thinking how simple things were, and best of all, how happy we were. Parents were involved and present and all families had close bonds. Is society turning back towards it again?

This journey starts with gratitude.

A Tribute to My Parents

Who they are and what they stand for, made this all possible. They were not perfect by all means, but were balanced, straight forward, honest and down to earth.

My parents were born very early in the previous century and experienced many world events over nine decades.

They had a wonderful relationship. She adored him and he was a good provider. There were disagreements, for sure yes, but never arguments, name-calling or shouting.

My Parents

Willie and Mien Kok

Photo of my parents Willie and Mien Kok

Both were very wise and balanced people, always set a good example.

Dad was respected wherever he went. He was a strict man with a very kind heart. Would stick to his values no matter what. With good planning, Dad accomplished a lot on a teachers salary. As an example, my Dad never owed anybody any money. He even bought his cars and houses cash, no debt ever. Dad had the wisdom and patience to wait until he had saved enough to buy cash. He had a second income though, and saved not spent.

Mom was the kindest, caring and most supportive person, an excellent cook and a good organiser. She did all her planning in advance. Making lists of everything. Experience taught her to always have a plan B and never left it until the last moment. Must say she had a Malawian guy, John Maseke as her right-hand. He could do it all, knitting, cooking, dry cleaning, you think of it and he could do it. He was part of the household for 50 years, and with his help, all functions were always done to near perfection.

Money was never too much, just enough, but love and care were in abundance. As an only child, I received it all. They were the best parents and gave me an open mindset to grow. I was and still are, very lucky and proud.

Guidance with Granny is my way to honour and keep the legacy of my parents alive. What I am sharing in these letters, I mostly learned from them.

The Changes

These letters to my Granddaughter are all about creating a lifestyle with good habits, for a happy and successful life.

I do understand that changes are inevitable. Over time, political, social and family lifestyle changes happen, but in this process, certain core values got lost along the way.

Looking through the eyes of an old school soul it is hard if you compare with today’s life.  Honest and sincere people, especially in business, in other words, people with integrity is kind of hard to find.

Most people have self-centred images and appearances to maintain. So desperately wanting to fit into a hollow society. It is more important to have an image than being themselves. The poor kids are the ones to suffer most.

The worst of all is the quality of all products. It has been diluted to the extent that you hardly recognise the flavour or taste of the product I grew up with, and at a ridiculous price too. Is there nothing one can do about it?

Our older generation grew up, with a different set of values than the young adults of today. Therefore, makes it hard sometimes, to understand the new ways.

Life has changed, from the warm caring families and close-knit communities to the clinical impersonal cold, competitive societies of today. Why did that happen?

Even the way we eat has changed dramatically. From wholesome natural food to genetically modified synthetic products, hardly recognisable as healthy hearty food.

Forgive me for ranting and raving, all is not bad though. There are many advantages that came with the new millennium. Greater choices worldwide in almost everything. Just think how easy it is to connect with people on the other side of the world.

New technology has also given the world a bigger marketplace. You can buy anything from everywhere in the world without a middle man and are not restricted to just your own country.

The modern techno lifestyle has many advantages, I love it. There are still many good people around making it worthwhile.


This was more than a mouthful, and now you know exactly who Stella is … lol. I am an old soul with a modern twist.

May it be, that some of the letters interest you enough to read a few. It will be good to hear from you, tell me what you think ……

Inspire, Motivate and Empower the Next Generation.

Kind regards




These letters are certainly not by any means professional advice. It is a reflection of my own experiences and what I was taught. Therefore, only forwarding practical experiences to my dearest granddaughter Thinette, and for that matter, each one reading.