Letter 19 Qualities for a Good Friend

Qualities for a Good Friend

My granddaughter with her cat

Dear Thinette

There is nothing worse than being betrayed by someone, most importantly, having thought he or she was a best friend. It is a shock, a traumatic experience, heartbreaking and sad.  All trust has been broken, in addition, making you realize it takes a very special, dedicated, loyal, honest person to have the Qualities for a Good Friend

Find a good friend is someone who has the same values and interests, and most of all are prepared to accept and compromise. Create quality habits for a good friend.

How to describe a good friend?

Qualities for a Good Friend

Someone once said these true words:

A good friendship is “A single soul dwelling in two bodies” Aristotle.

This statement says it all.

To find a good friend you have to be a good friend. It is a dedicated friendship in the true sense of the word. To have specific qualities for a good friendship is essential.

There are ethics involved that will make a friend feel safe and secure to share her inner self. You have to earn a good friend my darling.

Friendship, as in all relationships, needs continuous effort and dedication. Knowing when support is needed, in short, is the knowledge you gain by being interested in his or her behaviour. This will be a mutual interest in each other to make it a successful friendship.

Quality for good friends are Best friends stick together.

There are certain qualities you have to have, to become a good friend. Having a special friend enhances life, it gives a sense of belonging, self-worth and purpose.

Qualities for a Good Friend

  • RESPECT. I acknowledge and embrace who the other person is and treat him or her accordingly. Mutual respect is one of the most important qualities to have. Always keep secrets confidential, never to be spoken about outside the friendship.

  • Gossip or listen to gossip is a bad habit. Form own opinions. Do not talk behind his or her back. Discuss it in an open and calm way. When someone in a group talks harmful about other friends, walk away. It is disrespectful, and will subsequently, do the same to others too.

Quality for good friend is never to gossip. Girls gossiping.

  • HONESTY. Among all the trends’ honesty is one of the most meaningful for good friends. Always tell the truth, be tactful and diplomatic, never cruel or abusive to hurt their feelings.

  • Be honest when discussing clothes, hairstyles, romance and jobs opportunities. Take his or her personality in consideration when expressing an opinion, not yours.

  • LOYALTY. Be faithful and dependable. Listen to your friend, try and put yourself in his or her shoes. Best friends can rely on one another for assistance in all circumstances though you might feel different, remember it is not about you.

  • Be there to help whether it is for health, money, love, job-related problems. A friend has to know I will be there by his or her side no matter what, I am sincere and do it from my heart.

  • TRUSTWORTHY. This quality have to be earned. Keep private conversations private, it has to be part of moral principles. Never undermine a friend, be open upfront in all behaviour and always be there for each other.

  • ACCEPTING. Coming from different backgrounds will make for diversion. What is good for one is not always good for the other. Do not try to change each other.

  • Embrace the differences, discuss it for better understanding. Challenge and encourage each other to tell more about your values on different issues. Be even-handed in everything.

Quality for a good quality friend have things in common. Two best friends

  • LOW-MAINTENANCE. Do not be a demanding friend that needs attention every minute of the day. Both should have a full life of your own, no need to do everything together. You both have different interests and hobbies, but the secret is to re-connect after events and share the experience.

  • Be happy, bubbly and fun to be with. Always see a bright side in everything, look carefully even every problem has a silver lining. Seek friends with the same lifestyle.

  • N0N-JUDGEMENTAL. See every situation from a neutral corner. Do not judge from your point of few, it might not be balanced. Listen to your friend, put you in their shoes and relate to their problem. What will be the best solution for them?

  • Never try to convince your perspective as the only way. Make them feel confident and secure about who they are. It is the uniqueness that attracted you to each other in the first place.

To have a good relationship with a best friend boosts happiness, reduce stress, improves confidence and self-worth.

In conclusion my dear, best friends have integrity and are attentive, available, believable, caring, easy-going, faithful, considerate, empathetic, compassionate, forgiving, loyal, humorous, good listener, generous, gentle, giving, respectful, honest and kind.

“A best friend is he, that when he wishes a person’s good wishes, it for that person’s own sake”Aristotle

Qualities for a good friend is a mouthful but easy to be when finding a real best friend.

Love you

Gran Stella

Gran Stella

2 Comments on “Letter 19 Qualities for a Good Friend”

  1. Gran Stella, you have a wonderful way with words.
    How blessed is Thinette to be able to share Grans wisdom and knowledge, as are we.
    I often think some of the basic qualities of a good friend are over looked for the bigger, brighter offerings of others, only to find that under the brightness is sometimes something less remarkable.
    There is some excellent advice for everyone right here.

    1. Thank you for the compliment and motivating comment Fran!

      Yes everybody needs a good sincere and trustworthy friend, it brings so much value to a persons life.

      Choosing a best friend is as important as choosing a partner, it has such a huge influence on one’s life.

      You will find, a surface friend will soon disappear when the benefits disappear.

      They were only friends for the perks they could get from your friendship.
      Stella

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