Letter 11. Romancing Women Roller Coaster Adventure

Romancing  a Women.

My dear Grandson,

If you are an adventurer which I know you are, you will know understanding and loving a woman is never easy, at the same time romancing a woman with the right attitude can be one of the biggest adventures in life. It is a never ending roller coaster ride of exciting events and notions to embark on.

Love and romance are static, only you can blow life into it, and soon it will be a blazing glowing furnace of satisfying feelings for you and for her. The moment you understand  he way a woman’s mind is designed it is so easy to navigate. Not all are the same but treating her with respect will get you a long long way.

What Women Wants

•  A woman wants to feel cherished, secure and special.

•  Give her the acknowledgment for who and what she is as well as her achievements.

•   Never alienate your woman by speaking negative of her and her behaviour or the generalized perceptions or is it misperception of women. Most of the time women and their behavior become the joke of town. As a matter of fact, it is only spoken by a man who does not know his woman, making him the laughing stock. Women just keep quiet.

•  Women do love differently than men, accept it and play the game …  she also has to accept men love differently.

•  A woman does love surprises, even an unexpected kiss or hug. There are so many ways and will cost you nothing, she is actually very easy to please.

•  Shower her with love and affection. Tell her every day how much you love her and how special she is to you. Show her how much she means to you.

•  Remembering special dates and occasions makes her very happy and she will feel you care. By remembering, you have given her a space in your life and it will make her feel she is important to you. Find a way to remember it! She is the most important person in your life, and it will make her so happy! Will you forget a meeting or an appointment at work, with a person or manager who are strangers and outsiders in your life? Yet again who she is will be made the laughing stock, but it was actually the man at fault.

• Be present and be a part of the activities at home. It makes the team you are so much stronger and this is the time to flirt and seduce.

In other words my son, acknowledges her, loves her and cherishes her. Never makes her feel inferior, unimportant or left out in your presence ever.

Behavior of men

I would like to give you an insight into old fashion men’s behavior. It boils down to general good manners which will make you an outstanding distinguished man in a world where being sloppy the trend is. You will gain immediate respect being so different to the don’t care behavior of today.

Old World Behavior

Did you know there was a time

•  A man would open the door for a lady.

•   Pull out her chair for her, and open the car door for her

•   Let her enter a door before you, any women not just yours.

•  When you walk down the street, the lady will walk on the inside, away from the traffic.

•  Never start eating until she has started.

•   Wait until everybody has finished eating and all have their dessert before you eat.

•   Dress with respect for yourself, for her and the occasion. Not just the same old denim jeans all the time.

•  The table at a hotel will have different sets of cutlery for every course you eat and you will have to know how to use them. That is still the case when you dine out smart. Don’t just grab any piece of cutlery and start eating.

•   Standing up when a woman enters a room or come to the table you sit at in a restaurant.

•   Your leather shoes will always shine and other soft shoes be clean and fresh. Your hands and nails will receive special care, and always carry a clean handkerchief.

•  Never let the sun set on a disagreement, set it straight, discussing it before going to bed and seal it with a kiss and a hug.

•  Giving her flowers and chocolates once and again is always a winner.

•   Ask each other’s opinion about everything.

•  Give her compliments.

•  Treat the relationship 50/50 in everything.

You won’t believe it but this behavior will still steal a woman’s heart and make you special, but some men got lazy. I would not know how to describe the modern way of behavior, maybe you can help me on that one my dear.

The Way to a Woman’s Heart and Making her Happy

This my love is when you have found your real true love and you are in a committed relationship.

•  Romancing a woman starts in the morning if you want results in the evening. Another difference between a man and a woman. Take it slows and suggestive, giving compliments where it matters and leave it at that. On your way out touch the part that matters when you say goodbye.

•  When you walk into the house after a long hard day, leave the macho business man outside. Become the tender loving man you are and show her the tender loving feelings you have for her.

• During the day send her a message, telling her how much you miss her and would love run your fingers through her hair and hold and cuddle her. Set her mind going.

•  In the afternoon send her another message, taking it a bit further, how much you want to feel her naked warm body against yours.

•  When arriving at home find her where she is busy in the kitchen, hug her from behind, kissing her neck and whisper sweet nothings in her ear. She might surprise you, wearing just an apron and a string of pearls if your behavior makes her feel special

Turn her around and lift her up against your chest, look her in the eye telling her how special she is and how much you love her. Kissing her and let her slowly slide down your body for her to feel your arousal. Invite her to a shower with you before dinner and make sure to switch off the stove. Soaking and washing each others bodies is a good start but that is where it ends too, leave the shower session for another day. Dinner is waiting and desert will be taken in bed or where ever.

You have to take it slows with your woman my dear, the pleasure of it all is the whole process of courting. Tease her and make her want you, you have to find your love dance to entice her letting the exotic animal come alive in her, it shouldn’t be a quick and easy process, prolong the pleasure. Be never boring have initiative and make it different and exciting every time.

Much later in bed when she lies in your arms you can talk about the days happenings and discuss the next day.

Never use the word Sex when it comes to your loved one. You Make Love to your partner. What you have is much more special than the plain everyday sex they talk about.

Never lie to your woman. The moment you feel the need to lie there is something fundamentally wrong. Search your inner self and find what caused it, discussed it immediately and find a solution. If you leave it to grow inside you, it will become a monster which will tare you apart.

The four most important elements of a good and happy relationship is

RESPECT,  APPRECIATION, TRUST and ADORATION.

When one of these are missing my son, it is not a good idea to keep the relationship.

Having all four of these important elements, the Desire for each other will be there, and nothing and nobody else will way up to what you have.

There is much talk about a soul mate but I think in the ideal happy relationship, you have all the keys to her locks and she has all the keys to your locks, there is no hidden secrets and you make each other completely happy.

Love your Gran

Stella.

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10 Comments on “Letter 11. Romancing Women Roller Coaster Adventure”

  1. Wow Stella,
    Very touching … I have great respect for women and I always tried to better understand them
    After all, a woman is the only person who can make a man feel like a man, right?
    I found your post very inspiring, reading it helps me to deeply understand what women really wants
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!

    1. The delicate dance between men and women are fascinating. If we will just take the time to learn and understand each other the world will be a much better place
      Thank you for you comment I appreciate it.
      Stella

  2. This is so beautiful. We need to rescue romance and old school practices like you wrote here. You are giving great advice to your readers 🙂 and if some put in practice these tips, they will definitely be compensated lol 😀 My mum tells me stories of how her boyfriend when she was young used to serenade her and compose songs for her. How wonderful is that? I never had something like that :'( I wished!

    1. Thank you Thais your comment is heart warming!
      It is time we mothers get involved in the upbringing of a new generation with integrity. All good things has gone through the drain and we have to salvage some of it … lol
      The story of your mom is precious.
      Stella

  3. Not sure if you are writing this to actual grandson or to your grandaughter’s husband. Either way what a magnificent collection of manners for both the young men just starting to experience the joy of female companionship or the old married man who has over time become relaxed and forgets to treat his woman with great respect.

    You letter open my eyes to a few ways I need to change to be more appreciative of my wonderful wife and best friend.

    1. Hi Barry,
      Hahaha you will never know! I love the old school ways, it was meant to make a woman feel very special.
      I ruffled some feathers … I thought I would not be able to. Only joking.
      I believe Respect is the big one, all the rest come afterwards.
      Thank you for a great comment.
      Stella

  4. hope the fellas are reading this, great advice and tips, thank you so much Stella for yet another great article. I always enjoy reading your articles, so full of wisdom.

    1. Hi Rose
      Thank you for inspiring words, and I hope so too.
      It is the time now to give The One in your live special treatment, demonstrating you devotion.
      Stella

  5. Hi Stella,

    Another great post!

    Understanding and loving women is never easy. However, with respect, appreciation, trust and adoration everything will follow. I totally agree with you that these elements are the key in a good, happy and lasting relationship.

    I totally agree that the old ways are better than the ways of courting nowadays. I personally love the flowers, chocolates and sweet words of appreciation often said and whispered.

    Thank you for sharing this article.

    1. Hi Joyce
      Yes us women can be a challenge sometimes, but if a man takes the time to know the design of his woman’s mind it is very easy to keep her happy and to please her. Love her the way she wants to be loved and she will do the same.
      Good old school manners will go a long way, in essence it is how a woman wants to be treated. It makes her feel special and appreciated, though in society today it is the laughing stock if a man does it.
      Thank you for your comment I appreciate it!
      Stella

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