Have you ever had the feeling at a party or gathering, you are invisible? You are there but no one sees or hears you? It is a horrible feeling, you want to go home and hide under the bed, but it is easy to over come my dear. With a few changes in attitude and mindset it will be easy to become a siren woman and the Belle of the Ball!
Do you know what it means to be a siren woman? According to the dictionary it is a lady who is a beautiful, seductress, charmer, femme fatale, goddess, sex symbol, temptress and a vamp.
Being a siren woman means to scream attention in a subtle nonverbal way, by just being who you are, confident and self-assured. Being confident without being arrogant, well groomed without being over the top. Every woman should inspire to be one. The secret is to go very subtle about it. All men worthy will take note and see you as a valuable woman if you get it right.
Find what you want your persona to be, who and what comes natural to you. Are you a soft shy girly type, then you accentuate and be a seductive silent flirt with the look in your eye, or you want to be the outgoing laughing fun loving woman. Be discrete and never too loud. Be always in charge of the situation and your emotions.
Know what the man will be like, you want to attract, not just everybody in the group, be selective and wise. Again planning is the best way to have clarity.
Formulate what you want, what is important in your life, what characteristics the man you want to be with should have, and what would make you happy! Should he be a serious, sporty, out going or funny guy.
Set boundaries to create your value. Stick to those boundaries to maintain your value no matter what, be consistent. Should he be religious, academic, professional, nerdy or practical skillful man.
Find what you are passionate about. Focus all your attention to develop the skills to make a success. It creates fulfillment and happiness. Empower yourself. Is it music, art, academics, gardening and plants or an entrepreneur.
To be financially independent is the most important asset in the life of a great woman. It gives you the confidence needed for high self-esteem and a positive outlook. Find the job you love.
Love yourself. Make peace and forgive yourself for mistakes made in the past. You can be your own best friend. The mind is like a fertile soil – you reap what you sow, take great care to sow only positive seeds.
Never compare yourself to other women. You are authentic and unique. Love your body… there is nothing sexier for a man, if his woman is comfortable in her own skin and confidently love the body she is in, no matter her weight or size.
Put the spotlight on yourself by your appearance. In public dress to highlight your assets. If it is your eyes make sure to accentuate it, wear subtle makeup, remember men prefer the natural look, and wear earrings to draw attention upwards to it. You might have nice breasts, wear tops or dresses to enhance not show off, that is an art to achieve, never to tight or too revealing, or you have a good tight bum, show it off by wearing snug fitted jeans or skirts. Remember to never go over the top keep it classy and in good taste. It must enhance your value and never go beyond your boundaries, except in the bedroom.
Be fun to be around, men love a great smile. Do not take life too serious no matter what the circumstances might be. Always make a comment to see the lighter side if a situation too. It shows you are a strong woman. Do not panic easily, or be a drama queen. Nothing should get you under.
Be able to receive a compliment with grace, never be arrogant, be a bit shy but always thank him generously.
Ask your man for his advice and help and accept it – this is very crucial. He will feel important and needed, it will boost his self-esteem.
Be a diverse woman, never be predictable with stereotype looks and behaviour, always change your hairstyle, dress code and where you want to go. This is the trick to make him feel he is with a different woman every time, it fills the need to be with multiple women. Never fall into a routine, it is very boring.
Stay a challenge and let him ‘chase’ you. Show just enough of your personality to keep him interested but stay a mystery. When you are constantly in his face, he will feel too secure and loses interest, be the ‘may-be’ mystery woman that stays just out of scope.
He must have an elusive feeling that is attainable. Be never too available, and let the challenge continue. Find ways to challenge him every day, postpone feel good activities for a silly reason, or make him do certain things before he can achieve a feel-good act, etc. but never manipulate your man.
Have your own life with own friends and activities, and let him have his life, activities and friends and discuss your outing. You will have your mutual friends and activities as a couple too. Giving each other space will make the bond much stronger.
Strong relationships exist when two whole people come together to share life with each other. This is the love every man and woman want to receive. There is a unique permanent beauty in an independent woman. It excites and sustains a man’s interest overtime, creating depth and lasting love far beyond physical.
The greatest gift you can give your partner is your own personal growth and development. Say:” I will take care of Me for You” and “You will take care of You for Me.” In other words, take care of your own EMOTIONS and expect your partner to take care of his/her own. Nobody ‘owns’ another.
There is a subtle difference between being supportive and being an obligation. Any sacrifice for another must be made as a self-directed choice and not as an obligation.
The greatest skill my darling, is to become a siren woman without being overbearing and arrogant. Stay humble, have good confidence and carry yourself with grace.