THE SECRET LANGUAGE OF RELATIONSHIPS
Today my dear we are going to discuss the secret language of relationships and the managing there of. It is a mix of reality and emotions and hard to separate. To have a successful relationship you have to be a strong individual, emotionally and financially independent, happy and content within yourself. If not, all relationships will fail or be a disaster. We will get you there even if it takes more letters.
HOW TO BECOME A STRONG WOMAN
Have you seen women crumbling under pressure, losing themselves and becoming hysterical? It is never good to see when a pretty woman loses control, panics and shouts? It is very humiliating.
MEN ADORE A STRONG CONFIDENT WOMAN.
To become a strong woman you need to change your mindset and never feel the victim. Have a balanced outlook and distance yourself from the problem, looking at it from the other side of the fence.
How to handle a traumatic negative experience as a strong women.
• Pull the covers over your head and give yourself permission to feel upset and sad. Cry to release stress, try and accept what has happened … but do not take for ever though! Analyse and acknowledge the facts my darling, then begin the recovering process as soon as possible
• Change to your survival attitude. Realise something much better will come out of this and it might be waiting right around the corner. Get yourself up and going, be ready for the next exciting experience. Dig deep and find your silver lining, start making positive declarations and move on.
BE AWARE OF
• Never act out of desperation. Do not act crazy or do silly things. Keep yourself together and try to act calm and normal, though you don’t feel like it.
• Listen to your intuition it will never fail you. You might have your solution right there.
• Do not get jealous, it does not become you and is never an answer to a lost or fading relationship. Move on.
• Hold on … have faith in yourself … EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY!
• Remember all has a purpose and in the end you will benefit from it.
Surrender to what has happened. You can not change it.
SEE REALITY FOR WHAT IT IS AND NOT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS.
BECOME A MYSTERY WOMAN.
To become a mysterious, magnetic, beautiful extraordinary woman will take a few adjustments my dear. It is time to clean out old useless habits making you one of the flock. Here are a few new habits making it possible.
• Confidence is the most important. Confidence only comes with knowledge. Make it your mission to know as much as you can, without arrogance.
Walk tall with long strides, hold your head high with an air of confidence. Being poised and calm oozes confidence.
Feel the Goddess you are!
• Become a good listener. Look the person in the eye and focus on what he says, give comments to make sure you understand what the meaning of the conversation is. Really be
interested in him or her and give them your full attention. Never interrupt.
Remember my dear, people will always remember how you make them feel. They will remember your reaction when seeing them and how you make them feel when you are around.
• Always be calm and composed no matter what the situation might be, but still be energetic and dynamic, never a Goodie-two-shoes. Speak with vigour and vitality, be alive and in motion.
• Have an interesting life by adding diversity and originality to your personality, your relationships and your physical appearance. Never be boring and predicable. Always be well groomed with a happy smile on your face. You will have an aura of fascination around you.
Every man wants his special woman to be a lushcious, exciting, feminine, interesting, imaginative, mysterious, expressively touching and magically exotic! He wants his own Geisha girl.
WHO AND WHAT IS A GEISHA GIRL.
The secrets of a Geisha girl is something many people wonder about. The mystical aura around the Geisha girl has been an intriguing fascinating phenomenon for centuries. She originates from Japan and was known as a woman pleasing men.
• She is an extraordinary woman. An emotionally and financially independent woman. Never relies on any man for her well-being, has her own place to stay, her own money and her dignity.
• She is well-trained in a skill and earns her own money from producing a product, well-mannered, soft-spoken, well-educated and could fit with ease anywhere in society.
• She is ultra feminine the way she dresses and her behaviour is impeccable, always cool, calm and collective with confidence, but behind closed doors I believe she will be a tiger. She is her own woman. One even married a Prince.
THE WAY MEN BEHAVE AND WHY.
Commitment is a very serious matter to a man. When he does, it means he is ready to take you on as his responsibility. He makes a promise to your dad and in church.
He will not commit if he is not ready, and you are not The One. He has to contemplate, calculate and reason with in himself to make sure before he makes that important decision. You have to respect that. Until then he plays the field and discover different personalities to make a better choice.
Women should learn from that experience and do the same instead of wanting to marry
every Dick Tom and Harry she has an affair with. Take your time, explore and meet different men too to make a better choice.
Women on the other hand sees commitment as a dream comes true and she can live ‘happily ever after’ with every man she has an affair with.
If a man does not say what she wants to hear, she will start manipulating and being demanding. Doesn’t take the time to know or try to gain the knowledge to understand the way men behave and why.
A man and a woman deed some alone time away from each other, take a break to think and appreciate each other all over again. Allow time for him to be with his
friends once a week and you can visit a friend or have coffee somewhere.
Never discuss you partner or his behaviour with anybody especially your friends. Come home and share your experiences. That will enhance your trust and intimacy. Strengthening your bond.
Here is the key:
“NO MATTER HOW GOOD A WOMAN YOU ARE, YOU WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH TO A MAN WHO IS NOT READY” Michael Fiore.
That is the reason why men lie to woman. When you get pushy and demanding he will say whatever it takes to keep you quiet, make you happy and say what you want to hear … but it won’t be the truth and one day he will just disappear.
Impatience and ignorance on the side of a woman causes major confusion and misunderstandings.
A MAN ON A MISSION.
Men are focused and always on a mission to achieve a goal. They are not emotional beings.
In his mind HIS MISSION IS VERY IMPORTANT TO HIM AND ALWAYS COMES FIRST! He would rather achieve his goal than make a commitment to a woman. Learn to respect the importance of that.
Remember if you tick all his boxes of importance he sees you as The One, you become his mission. He will change some direction to get your approval, but once he has your commitment and he is ready to commit too, it is a done deal and the goal is achieved.
Now he will move to his next goal, maybe to better himself to get an increase in salary for the benefit of you both, or he might save to buy you the house you want and start diverting his focus, giving you less and less romantic attention.
Do not misjudge this and see him as on the other side of the fence leaving you behind. You are a team and a unit, working together on the same side.
Now he needs your support and understanding. Talk about it and ask how you can help to make it easier on him to achieve that new goal for you both. Support him and be right there where he needs you.
The CORNERSTONES to a healthy, committed, loving, long lasting, intimate relationship are RESPECT, APPRECIATION, TRUST AND HONESTY to each other.
IN A NUTSHELL:
● To a Woman love means Commitment and Romance. She wants to feel SECURE, LOVED, HAPPY and SPECIAL in a monogamist relationship. A woman wants OBSESSION, DEVOTION and INTIMACY.
● To a Man love means FUN TIME and EXCITEMENT with the woman of his choice. He wants to feel SAFE, HAPPY, FREE and SECURE around you. A man wants RESPECT, APPRECIATION and ADMIRATION.
NEVER TRY TO CHANGE A MAN
● One last piece of advice, NEVER TRY TO CHANGE A MAN!
Don’t even try my dear, you are wasting valuable time.
He will never change, and besides that, no one has the right to manipulate another person.
If his behaviour is not what you want it to be, never try to conform him to make it work, it is never going to happen. It is a clear sign you are not meant to be together. The relationship will NEVER be a happy one.
Accept it, end the relationship without feeling guilty or pity, especially not yourself, you are doing both of you a favour. Move on and search till you find the one who has all you want, he is out there, you just have to find him. Do not sit back and wait for him to come.
Make a list of all the characteristics important to you, what do you want in a man and how you want him to behave. What will your lover, best friend and hero BE like and not LOOK like. Go out and search for him.
Try to meet as many men as possible, watch, listen and observe.
Never go by what a man says, it is what he does that is important. Does his words match his acts.
Be elusive and do not become too serious too soon. Make an informed decision that will last for the rest of your life. Do it with an open mind but not open legs my love.
• What do I have to do to become a Mystery woman like a Geisha girl?
• How do men and women differ and what are their requirements for a happy relationship ?
• What are the characteristics you find important in a man?
Next letter is how to be a Domestic Queen around the house.
Your loving Gran
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