What are My Expectations of Life

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My Dear Thinette

Think for a moment? Is it Expectations or Anticipations,  which one will it be?

What are My Expectations of Life

The difference is, with Expectations you put pressure on yourself and get going to achieve your goals. With Anticipations, on the other hand, you are expecting and waiting for things to happen, hence, no real effort from your side.

Which one will it be my darling, waiting for things to happen or go and get what you want yourself?

What is your relationship with yourself? Do you respect the choices for your mission? Are you driven to do whatever it takes, or do you fall back and think I will never be able to achieve any. Very important my dear, get the right mindset and tell yourself … I can and I will!.

What will the purpose of my life be?


My goals, what do I desire or what would I be happy with? Is it, bags full of money, the ultimate lifestyle, blissful happiness, how can I serve people?

How am I going to get it

What is it I really want, furthermore, what will make me proud to achieve?

How am I going to balance it all to create a fulfilled life?

Good planning with vision and taking action is really the only way to get what you want my dear.

Ask yourself: Now I am of age and can do whatever I want, will I be wise and therefore do what I need to do to be successful? Will, I procrastinating and waiting for the perfect moment for this miracle to happen?

No time to waste my dear, most importantly, start planning immediately when you know what you want. Put shoulder to the wheel and with determination and enthusiasm fulfil your expectations. Many important decisions will have to be made. Heal your relationship and become proud of what you are doing.

Make sure, every goal in life must have a purpose and good planning, with tons of preparation. As a result, the more detail the better and then the dedicated execution thereof.

Guidance with Granny asking What are My Expectations of Life

Where do I begin to fulfil my Expectations

There are a few questions to answer, my dear. Answer them one by one to make it after all clear, what you want in life.

What do I expect from life and what will my career be?


  • Clarify what is the vision for your life, make a list.

  • What will your purpose be?

  • All careers in life rally around a service one way or the other. How will you want to serve people?

  • How do I want to live my life? What will my standards be?

What is a meaningful life  

  • Yes, what is a meaningful happy life? I want to be successful with a purpose.

  • What will I need, to achieve those expectations? Will it be hard work, an outstanding skill or determination?

  • First of all, have a productive plan for each day. Have a daily routine of getting up early. Organise your tasks into hourly sections for every day and have a fixed schedule.

Growing up you had many fantasies, with high expectations about your future, even more about a wonderful romantic relationship forever after.

Most of us have visions of living an idyllic life in luxury in utopia, not realising where it all comes from. 

  What to Take into Consideration

~ What gives me a happy warm secure feeling? Take your personality into consideration. Most of all, I want to wake up every morning with a feeling of joy and excitement? What will make that happen for me?

~ The future, where will I be in 10 years time? Now you can start visualising, my dear. 

~ Ask “Are my expectations realistic?” Unrealistic expectations mostly turn into a bigger problem, my dear. It will most definitely, de-motivates you along the way.

~ Take a moment and write your life story as you see it. What will the heading and the theme be, where will I work, how will I live and what will my holidays look like? Who am I in this life story? Will I be the creator, wicked participant complaining about everything or on the other hand, the happy Hero?

~ What will my relationships be like, am I dreaming of a handsome prince kidnapping you. Be someone’s best friend?  Do I have the recipe to be happy for the rest of my life?

~ Building a six-figure affiliate business online, selling courses and be an influencer. 

Back to this moment … much more has to be done to get to that point my dear, therefore lifestyle and habit changes might be in the air to achieve your goals!

Finding your direction. The field is wide open. You might want to become a professional, a successful online entrepreneur or a stay at home mom, but in addition, happiness stays at the core of your being.

Let us begin at the beginning and therefore create your plan.

The worst thing in life is the picture you have created in your head of what your life is supposed to be. That inner voice dictating your relationship with yourself. Remember expectations are an illusion of what you have created in your mind.

Never live your life according to other people’s ideas and expectations they have for you, especially not those of your parents. They sometimes want to achieve their own long lost dream through you. Not meaning any disrespect.

Plan of Action


• Define your purpose and know your route to your destination. First of all, what you want and how are you going to get there.

•  Know Discipline, Dedication and Determination are important.

• Do your planning in detail.

Overcome obstacles.

• Learn to Separate

• High-income skills.

 Where am I going

What are My Expectations of Life. Image f a notebook and girl planing and listing her goals in life.

Everything I want to achieve in life will need a plan with tons of preparation, as a matter of fact, the more detail the better. 

At the end of each year do your planning for the next year. Create a plan with goals for one year, two years, a five-year plan and a ten-year schedule. Know where you are heading with your short term goals.

Do your 12 monthly planning for the year, divided it into 4 weekly plannings for each month. Then follows your seven day planning for the weeks. Lastly is the daily planning.  Lay it out in easily accomplishable goals and tasks.

 Draw a thin line through it all, leading to your ultimate goal. The best is to know where am I heading to, in other words, why is it so important to do what I do, and most of all, how am I going to achieve it. 

Effectively, the only way to get results is thinking, deciding and planning the road to success. Without this preparation and due dates, subsequently, nothing will happen, my dear.

Putting myself and most certainly, my future first, no matter what, it is a must! Have good positive conversations with yourself, building a winner relationship.

Habits to fulfil your Expectations

Dedication and Determination

Both will be needed in huge quantities, therefore, discipline and hard work will be the key to get what you want. I will have to be very firm with myself and due to a heavy workload, follow a tight working schedule, in other words, the lazy days are over, I have a great task ahead.

Work hard when young to subsequently, harvest the good fruits at old age. Retirement plans are so important and should, therefore, be part of your planning from day one.

 Annual Planning

What are My Expectations of Life. Girl holding a calendar open at the 1st January  to do her annual planing.

Successful people plan everything. Longterm and short goals need detailed attention. Follow this link to learn all about thorough planning on a yearly, monthly, weekly and daily bases, very necessary for reaching your goals. Above all keep, journals updated and more so, keep proper records. Print it out and keep in physical files to keep track, or save to the Cloud. I do not have trust in the digital devices, have seen quite a few things disappear never to surface again. 

The same hard work and dedication a farmer has to go through, to get meat or veggies on the table are applicable to reaching goals too. It does not happen overnight, as a matter of fact, you will have this assignment for life to reach your goals. 

No magic wand, in other words, it is a lengthy process before you can harvest the fruit of your labour. 

As a result,  you have to budget your time and money well. Do spoil yourself with a treat or two, eg. one night a week out with my friends and enjoy it.

Managing your Obstacles

  • Stay calm and overcome obstacles with logic. Search for information and gain enough knowledge on the subject to give you confidence.

  • Learn to think out the box. Find a different approach to solve a problem. Look at it from a different angle.

  • Never complicate issues. First of all, see it for what it is and not what you think it is. Never take it personally.

  • Find a way to turn these challenges into advantages.


Find people who are trustworthy and honest and wise, to be close to you to form your support group. First of all, people willing to helping you achieve your success.

You will need this reinforcement group of people for the rainy days. Select experienced friends, who are sincerely interested in your wellbeing, it will mostly be older people in your life. Finding all the wisdom, guidance, support and most importantly sympathy in one person is a possibility. 

Learn to Separate 

What are My Expectations of Life. Man caring boxes

Separate different occurrences and issues in life. Put everything that happens to you in separate little boxes in your mind. Each on his own and has nothing to do with each other only in the bigger picture.

If you had a flat tyre it was actually nobody’s fault. Fix it and move on! In other words, see it as an experience and a lesson learned.

Close the box and file it in the archives of your mind, most importantly, don’t carry it with you the whole day. Moaning and groaning about it, won’t change anything, it will only steal your joy!

How to fulfil My Expectations of Life?

New Skills

You will have to armour yourself for success. The best will be, with high-income skills to obviously earn more. Do some self-study, do applicable courses, in addition, read all you can and gain more knowledge to become an expert in your chosen field. Know more than everybody else on the subject, always stay one step ahead. Become the specialist.

 What is a high-income skill? It is not a general skill acquired in everyday work, it will have to have the distinction to be unique and scares, for instance,  not a normal office worker, but the best copywriter, falling under a speciality group that is not the norm.

Choose a career in demand, one that will still be there in twenty years, and develop it to the ultimate. Take your time and make sure to make the right informed decision. 

A desire to grow and become an authority in your field.

Dedication and persistence are crucial because reaching your dreams are your goal.

Streetwise Lady


First of all, do your planning relentlessly, my dear. Making those dreams and expectations come true is of the utmost importance. Set your foundation on solid rock and work hard. 

There are a couple of methods to enrich the quality of your life. Your career and your private life. They might need different sets of expertise to develop and in addition, keep it separate but balanced.

Let’s look at it this way, each personality in its own box, therefore, personal life stays at home and business life stays at the office. Mixing them will bring a conflict of interest and in the end, divide my attention.

While on my way home after work, put back the career attitude in its box and close the lid, simultaneously open my personal loving family box, and start thinking about the warmth and love at home.

When I get home, as a result, I will feel so relaxed already. I do the same in the mornings. On my way to work, I similarly leave my private life at the front door and start planning and thinking of the business day with important decisions to make, in short shift your focus.

The aim of these letters is to help you get out the maze onto the high road to success, as smoothly as possible, my dear. Freedom is what everybody strives to have.

Freedom is becoming financially independent, be your own woman, inevitably it brings the confidence needed. Do things the way you want to it, that is the ultimate freedom. Take responsibility for this process and make it happen.


There are only two ways to be happy, my dear.

Either Change the Situation you are in or evidently, Change your Mindset.

What are My Expectations of Life. Window with handwritten words of happiness. I LOVE MY LIFE!

Know where you are going and, more so, keep moving, my love. Never stay at the crossroads and worst of all let everybody pass you by.

Firstly find what gives you purpose and proud feeling, then work on the system to accomplish it.

What do you desire, furthermore, what do you want life to be like?

When planning your goals, have your expectations in mind, furthermore, be specific.

Begin with the End in Mind, and finally, start working to reach those goals, my dear.

No time to procrastinate!

Love you lots. 

Gran Stella.

Gran Stella

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23 thoughts on “What are My Expectations of Life”

  1. Great advice. I don’t think enough young people spend much time actually planning and making a road map on how to achieve the future they desire. Most are probably unaware that their future life is dependent on all of the decisions that they are making now.
    It’s so important to dream about what we want to achieve, get a clear picture in our heads as to how we want to be living in 5 or 10 years time, and then setting out the steps that will allow us to achieve it.
    After all, our future is in our hands if we want it to be. Or we could just stumble around, reacting to events, circumstances, and the advice of those close to us and accept whatever life throws at us? A much wiser choice is, as you have clearly explained here, to accept responsibility for our own lives and the circumstances we attract to ourselves and actively participate to achieve all that we desire.
    Many thanks for sharing 🙂

    • Thank you for a spot-on inspiring comment Andrew! If we all had just known way back then. Very few people did the planning in the early days of adulthood. The days of letting it be what will be are gone forever. As you say the future is in your hands, don’t let it slip away. Create your own sphere where you can thrive in.
      I appreciate your comment and value the advice, Andrew.
      Kind Regards.

  2. I enjoyed reading your site. Great idea to pass on some hard-earned lessons. Some really good advice there. Too many folks-I would say the majority-are just floaters, drifting along with the flow of life and not really focusing on finding a place to establish a beachhead.

    One has to have anchor points in order to know who and what you are and what you stand for. Like the old adage says, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” Having those anchor points aids in plotting a course and provides a place to reorient to if you stray away from your intended path.

    A few of my anchor points are:

    One of my favorite axioms goes, “They can’t get your goat if they don’t know where you keep it tied.” Keep your vulnerable areas a closely guarded secret and never let them see you sweat. Your detractors are always looking for chinks in your armor.

    Keep your comments positive. Be slow to criticize, even when asked and quick to compliment. Best to say nothing at all if you can’t say something positive. (A tough one for we-the-opinionated) lol

    Your popularity and perception of your intellect grow in proportion to your ability to encourage others to talk about themselves.

    Best of luck with your site and to your grand daughter.

    • Great advice Casey, thank you, especially about the positive comments!

      This will be a drop in the ocean but I just have to get it out and say it.
      Making money is not important on this site, it might come later but for now, it is the guidance that counts.

      The feeling that the youth are left to find their own way, without giving them real values to hold on to, is everywhere to be seen.
      The evil forces have all the influence today, and nobody cares?

      I appreciate your comment! Very inspiring and motivating!
      Thank you!

      p/s Hi Casey I visit your site and comment on your post of the Injured Paws but could not get in added. By the way, I loved the article, great info!

  3. Stella, these letters are so original and really heart warming. What a wonderful way to communicate to your grandchildren the principles of life, work ethic and morality.

    • Thank you Schalk for your comment. It will motivate me to carry on. It is the only way to get a message through to the young pepole. Letting them read it in secret!
      I appreciate it thank you!

  4. Thank you for the article. I’m 59 and still looking for my expectations in life. LOL! But you have a clear and concise plan for people to work and plan for their future. I enjoyed reading your article.

    • Hi Daniel
      I believe very few people our age sat down and planned our future. Times were different. Now a days planning it important and necessary to survive let alone make a success.
      It is never to late, one can still do some planning for the rest of our time.
      Thank you for your comment.

  5. Hey Stella,

    This is a wonderfully crafted and quite interesting read here. You succeed in depicting a powerful message that every youngster has to understand.

    • Where I stay it is a need for the young to know these basics. If a parent does not teach them this at home where else will they get the knowledge from and sad to say most parents do not give this a second thought.
      Thank you for a very motivating comment.

  6. As I read this the first of what appears as a series of letters to her granddaughter I wish this had come from my grandmother about 60 years ago. Though some of what Stella writes is directed at young ladies a huge portion is meaningful to young men.

    Even now at almost 80 it si going to be interesting seeing how many points Stella presents that I can capture to apply to my own life experiences toward the goals I set for myself.

    • Barry it is written to my granddaughter because it is all I have and really wanted to make it personal.
      I accept the challenge to see if I can teach the proverbial dog new tricks.
      Thank you for your valuable comment.

  7. Hi Gran Stella,

    Great post and idea! Love the concept. So many young people these days are lost and have no direction. Suffering through life as they stumble their way forward. Having a meaning and purpose is so important for the young (as well as the old!)

    Once they work out their meaning it becomes like a light house and guides them. Thanks for helping Thinette find her way! We all need a Gran Stella!


    • It is so true but when you are that age, you know best and fun is more important.
      Lets hope this message will help more.
      The tragedy is no parent is educating their kids. They all get send out to the world thinking it is their oyster and someone else will do the work for them!
      Thanks for your comment.

  8. I love the advice. It is very sound. If young people would just heed the advice we give them and not think they know it all.

    • We were all there, only want to do our own thing. If only one knows how much valuable time gets wasted.
      Successful young people are the ones who took advice early on.
      Thank you for commenting James I appreciate it.

    • Hi James
      Don’t we all have that problem? If only ……
      I know the young ones don’t want to be told but soon they find out they don’t know it all and that is why I write these letters.
      It will always be there and they can come and read it in private whenever they need it, no one will know … lol
      Thank you for your comment

  9. What a great idea. I love your letter and the principles you recommend are valuable throughout all phases of our lives. Planning, dedication, and hard work is the formula for success in every endeavour we undertake.

    • Thank you Joe appreciate your kind comment. If young people will just realise how quick time goes by. Soon they will be at the age to retire and are still dreaming.
      Your summary is spot on those are the keys to your success.


  10. Wow! This is an amazing way to help you grandchild and getting others involved with great tips and tricks how to hack the code of life! Looking forward to read more.

    Have a great day!

    • Thank you Fredrik! Felt very uneasy between all the serious factual sites. This niche has chosen me. I am already planning another site as an annexe of this one for all grannies to share their wisdom too….. like a go to information hub for the inexperienced.
      Happy reading.

  11. Hi Stella,

    I love reading these letters to your granddaughter. Indeed, these letters serve as a guidance not just to her but also to those reading it. It is really true that every success starts at a good and strong foundation or base.
    Thanks for these letters.

    • This niche has chosen me out of need Joyce it is good to know it will serve a greater purpose to more than just the teenagers. Thanks for your comment.
      Happy reading


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