What are My Expectations of Life

My Dear Thinette


Think for a moment:

Expectations or Anticipations which one will it possibly be?

The difference is with Expectations you put pressure on yourself to achieve and with Anticipations, in contrast, you enjoy the happy feeling of achieving your goals.

First of all, what will my purpose in life be?

What do I desire or what would I be happy with?

How am I going to get it?

What is it I really want to achieve or I would be proud to achieve?

Who do I want to become? How am I going you create a balanced life?

Good planning with vision is really the only way to get what you want my dear.

Ask yourself: Now I am of age and can do whatever I Want. Will it be wise, or will I do what I Need to do. Wait therefore in anticipation to fulfil my expectations. I will have many decisions to make.

Make sure, every goal in life must have a purpose and proper planning, with tons of preparation and dedication. As a result, the more detail the better and then the dedicated execution thereof.

Guidance with Granny

Where do I begin?

There are a few questions to answer, my dear. Do them one by one to make it clear of what you want in life.

  • What do I expect from life and what would my life be like?

  • Clarify what is important, what will it be, and make a list.

  • How do I want to live my life? What will my standards be?

  • What is happiness and what puts a smile on my face and makes me happy?

  • Yes, what is a meaningful life? I want to be successful with a purpose.

  • What will I need, to achieve those expectations? Will it be hard work, an outstanding skill or determination?

Growing up you had many fantasies, with high expectancies about your future, anticipating even more, about a wonderful romantic life.

Consequently, having visions of living an idyllic life in luxury ever after.

Guidance with Granny What are My Expectations of Life

~ What gives me that happy warm secure feeling? Most of all, I want to wake up every morning with a feeling of joy and excitement?

~ Where will I be in 10 years time?

~ Ask “Are my expectations realistic?” Unrealistic expectations turn into a bigger problem, my dear. It will most definitely, de-motivates you.

~ Take a moment and write the future story of your life, above all, who do I want it to be in this life story? Will it be the wicked stepmother complaining about everything or on the other hand, the happy princess?

~ Dreaming and anticipating of a handsome prince kidnapping you. Riding off into the sunset on a white horse or, more likely, a solar-powered sports car.

~ Building a seven-figure business online, selling courses and be an influencer. 

Back to this moment … much more has to be done to get to that point my dear, therefore lifestyle and habit changes might be in the air to achieve your goals!

The field is wide open. You might want to become a professional, a successful online entrepreneur or a stay at home mom, but in addition, happiness stays at the core of your being.

Let us begin at the beginning and therefore create your plan.

What are My Expectations of Life?

The worst thing in life is the picture you have created in your head of what your life is supposed to be. Remember expectations are an illusion of what you have created.

Never live your life according to other people’s ideas and expectations for you, especially not those of your parents. Not meaning any disrespect.


• Define your purpose and know your destination. First of all, what you want and how are you going to get there.

• Know Discipline, Dedication and Determination are important.

• Do my planning in detail.

Overcome obstacles.

• Learn to Separate

• High-income skills.


 Where am I going?

What are My Expectations of Life. Image f a notebook and girl planing and listing her goals in life.

Everything I want to achieve in life will need a plan with tons of preparation, as a matter of fact, the more detail the better. 

At the end of each year do your planning for the next year. Create a plan with goals for one year, two years, a five-year plan and a ten-year schedule. Know where you are heading with your short term goals.

Then do your 12 monthly planning for the year, divided it into 4 weekly plannings for each month and lastly, your seven day planning for the weeks.  Lay it out in easily accomplishable goals and tasks.

 Draw a thin line through it all, leading to your ultimate goal. The best is to know where am I heading too, in other words, why is it so important to do what I do, and most of all, how am I going to achieve it. 

Effectively, the only way to get results is thinking, deciding and planning. Without this preparation and due dates, subsequently, nothing happens, my dear.

Putting myself and most certainly, my future first, no matter what!

Guidance with Granny What are My Expectations of Life


Both will be needed in huge quantities, therefore, discipline and hard work will be the key to get what you want. I will have to be very firm with myself and due to a heavy workload, follow a tight working schedule, in other words, the lazy days are over, I have a great task ahead.

Work hard when young to subsequently, harvest the good fruits at old age. Retirement plans are so important and should be part of your planning from day one.


What are My Expectations of Life. Girl holding a calendar open at the 1st January  to do her annual planing.

Thorough planning on a yearly, monthly, weekly and daily bases are necessary for reaching your goals. Above all keep, journals updated and more so, keep proper records. Print it out and keep in physical files to keep track, or save to the Cloud. I do not have trust in the digital devices, have seen quite a few things disappear never to surface again. 

The same hard work and dedication a farmer has to go through to get meat or veggies on the table, it does not happen overnight, as a matter of fact, you will have this assignment for life to reach your goals. 

No magic wand, in other words, it is a lengthy process before you can harvest the fruit of your labour. 

As a result,  I have to budget my time and money well. Do spoil yourself with a treat or two, eg. one night a week out with my friends and enjoy it.

What are My Expectations of Life?


  • Stay calm and overcome obstacles with logic, however, gain some knowledge on the subject.

  • Learn to think out the box.

  • Never complicate issues, first of all, see it for what it is.

  • See it for what it is and not what you think it is.

  • Turn those obstacles, most importantly, in advantages.


Find people who are trustworthy and wise to be close to you to form your support group. In your process, first of all, willing to helping you achieve your success.

I will need a reinforcement group of people for the rainy days. Select experienced friends, sincerely interested in your wellbeing, consequently, it will be older people in your life. Finding all the wisdom, guidance, support and sympathy in one person is a possibility, finally, keep a balance.

Guidance with Granny What are My Expectations of Life


What are My Expectations of Life. Man caring boxes

Separate different occurrences and issues in life put everything that happens to you in a separate little box in your mind. Nothing has to do with each other only in the bigger picture.

If I had a flat tyre it was nobody’s fault. Fix it and move on! In other words, see it as an experience to learn from.

Close the box and file it in the archives of your mind, most importantly, don’t carry it with you the whole day. Moaning and groaning about it won’t change anything, it will only steal your joy!

What are My Expectations of Life?


You will have to armour yourself, best of all, with high-income skills for a better income. In addition, do some self-study and research to develop and gain more knowledge to become an expert in your field of interest. Know more than everybody else on the subject, always stay one step ahead.

 What is a high-income skill? It is not a general skill acquired in everyday work, it will have to be unique and scares, for instance,  not a normal office worker but a copywriter, falling under a speciality group that is not the norm.

Choose a career in demand and develop it to the ultimate.

A desire to grow and become an authority in your field.

Making the right informed decisions.

Dedication and persistence are crucial for reaching your dreams and goals.

 What are My Expectations of Life


First of all, do your planning relentlessly, my dear. Making those dreams and expectations come true is of the utmost importance.

There are two sides to enrich your life, my private life and my career. They might need different sets of expertise to develop and in addition, keep it separate.

See the situation this way:

Put each its own box, therefore, personal life stays at home and business life stays at the office. Mixing them will bring a conflict of interest and in the end, divide my attention.

While on my way home after work, put back my career personality in its box and close the lid, simultaneously open my personal loving family box, and start thinking about home.

When I get home I will feel so relaxed already. I do the same in the mornings. On my way to work, I similarly leave my private life at home, thinking of the business day with important decisions to make.

The aim of these letters is, first of all, to help you get out the maze onto the high road to success as smoothly as possible.


Becoming a financially independent woman, inevitably, brings the confidence needed. Do things you want the way you want to. Taking responsibility for the process plays a huge role in happiness and feelings.

There are only two ways to be happy, my dear.

Either Change the Situation you are in or

Change your Mindset.

What are My Expectations of Life. Window with handwritten words of happiness. I LOVE MY LIFE!

In conclusion, know where you are going and, more so, keep moving, my love. Never stay at the crossroads and worst of all let everybody pass you.

Firstly find what gives you the happy and content feeling and how are you going to accomplish it.

What do you desire and, furthermore, what do you want life to be like?

Do you have expectations of life, and in addition, what are they?

Begin with the End in Mind, finally, start planning to reach those goals, my love.

Stop procrastinating!

Love you lots. 

Gran Stella.

Gran Stella


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21 Comments on “What are My Expectations of Life”

  1. I enjoyed reading your site. Great idea to pass on some hard-earned lessons. Some really good advice there. Too many folks-I would say the majority-are just floaters, drifting along with the flow of life and not really focusing on finding a place to establish a beachhead.

    One has to have anchor points in order to know who and what you are and what you stand for. Like the old adage says, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” Having those anchor points aids in plotting a course and provides a place to reorient to if you stray away from your intended path.

    A few of my anchor points are:

    One of my favorite axioms goes, “They can’t get your goat if they don’t know where you keep it tied.” Keep your vulnerable areas a closely guarded secret and never let them see you sweat. Your detractors are always looking for chinks in your armor.

    Keep your comments positive. Be slow to criticize, even when asked and quick to compliment. Best to say nothing at all if you can’t say something positive. (A tough one for we-the-opinionated) lol

    Your popularity and perception of your intellect grow in proportion to your ability to encourage others to talk about themselves.

    Best of luck with your site and to your grand daughter.

    1. Great advice Casey, especially the positive comments!

      This will be a drop in the ocean but I just have to get it out and say it.
      Making money is not important on this site, it might come later but for now, it is the guidance that counts.

      The feeling that the youth are left to find their own way, without giving them real values to hold on to, is everywhere to be seen.
      The evil forces have all the influence today, and nobody cares?

      I appreciate your comment! Very inspiring and motivating!
      Thank you!

      p/s Hi Casey I visit your site and comment on your post of the Injured Paws but could not get in added. By the way, I loved the article, great info!

  2. Stella, these letters are so original and really heart warming. What a wonderful way to communicate to your grandchildren the principles of life, work ethic and morality.

    1. Thank you Schalk for your comment. It will motivate me to carry on. It is the only way to get a message through to the young pepole. Letting them read it in secret!
      I appreciate it thank you!

  3. Thank you for the article. I’m 59 and still looking for my expectations in life. LOL! But you have a clear and concise plan for people to work and plan for their future. I enjoyed reading your article.

    1. Hi Daniel
      I believe very few people our age sat down and planned our future. Times were different. Now a days planning it important and necessary to survive let alone make a success.
      It is never to late, one can still do some planning for the rest of our time.
      Thank you for your comment.

  4. Hey Stella,

    This is a wonderfully crafted and quite interesting read here. You succeed in depicting a powerful message that every youngster has to understand.

    1. Where I stay it is a need for the young to know these basics. If a parent does not teach them this at home where else will they get the knowledge from and sad to say most parents do not give this a second thought.
      Thank you for a very motivating comment.

  5. As I read this the first of what appears as a series of letters to her granddaughter I wish this had come from my grandmother about 60 years ago. Though some of what Stella writes is directed at young ladies a huge portion is meaningful to young men.

    Even now at almost 80 it si going to be interesting seeing how many points Stella presents that I can capture to apply to my own life experiences toward the goals I set for myself.

    1. Barry it is written to my granddaughter because it is all I have and really wanted to make it personal.
      I accept the challenge to see if I can teach the proverbial dog new tricks.
      Thank you for your valuable comment.

  6. Hi Gran Stella,

    Great post and idea! Love the concept. So many young people these days are lost and have no direction. Suffering through life as they stumble their way forward. Having a meaning and purpose is so important for the young (as well as the old!)

    Once they work out their meaning it becomes like a light house and guides them. Thanks for helping Thinette find her way! We all need a Gran Stella!


    1. It is so true but when you are that age, you know best and fun is more important.
      Lets hope this message will help more.
      The tragedy is no parent is educating their kids. They all get send out to the world thinking it is their oyster and someone else will do the work for them!
      Thanks for your comment.

  7. I love the advice. It is very sound. If young people would just heed the advice we give them and not think they know it all.

    1. We were all there, only want to do our own thing. If only one knows how much valuable time gets wasted.
      Successful young people are the ones who took advice early on.
      Thank you for commenting James I appreciate it.

    2. Hi James
      Don’t we all have that problem? If only ……
      I know the young ones don’t want to be told but soon they find out they don’t know it all and that is why I write these letters.
      It will always be there and they can come and read it in private whenever they need it, no one will know … lol
      Thank you for your comment

  8. What a great idea. I love your letter and the principles you recommend are valuable throughout all phases of our lives. Planning, dedication, and hard work is the formula for success in every endeavour we undertake.

    1. Thank you Joe appreciate your kind comment. If young people will just realise how quick time goes by. Soon they will be at the age to retire and are still dreaming.
      Your summary is spot on those are the keys to your success.


  9. Wow! This is an amazing way to help you grandchild and getting others involved with great tips and tricks how to hack the code of life! Looking forward to read more.

    Have a great day!

    1. Thank you Fredrik! Felt very uneasy between all the serious factual sites. This niche has chosen me. I am already planning another site as an annexe of this one for all grannies to share their wisdom too….. like a go to information hub for the inexperienced.
      Happy reading.

  10. Hi Stella,

    I love reading these letters to your granddaughter. Indeed, these letters serve as a guidance not just to her but also to those reading it. It is really true that every success starts at a good and strong foundation or base.
    Thanks for these letters.

    1. This niche has chosen me out of need Joyce it is good to know it will serve a greater purpose to more than just the teenagers. Thanks for your comment.
      Happy reading

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