Letter 1. What are My Expectations of Life.

My Dear Thinette

What are My Expectations of Life? Find what makes you happy, gives you fulfilment and where you want to go with this skill.

Everything I want to achieve in life will need a plan with tons of preparation, as a result, the more detail the better and then the execution thereof.

At last, I am free , furthermore, I can make my own choices!

I can live my life the way I want to!

Everybody has this feeling, for the reason, the time has come to start your own life.

Where do I begin?

Do I have expectations, clarify, what it will be?

How do I want to live my life?

What makes me happy?

Yes, that’s it, and I want to be successful too.

What do I need, how am I going to achieve it?

Growing up you had many fantasies, even more, high expectancies about your future, most of all, about a wonderful romantic life.

Dreaming, certainly, of a handsome prince kidnapping you. Riding off into the sunset on a white horse or, more likely, a solar-powered sports car, consequently, have visions of living an idyllic life in luxury ever after.

What gives me that happy warm secure feeling I want to wake up to every morning?

Where would you want to be in 10 years time?

Ask “Are my expectations realistic?”

Be honest, most importantly, write down my feelings.

Take a moment and write the future story of my life, above all, who do I want it to be in this life story. Will it be the wicked stepmother complaining about everything or on the other hand, the happy princess?

Dreaming, certainly, of a handsome prince kidnapping you. Riding off into the sunset on a white horse or, more likely, a solar-powered sports car, consequently, have visions of living an idyllic life in luxury ever after.

Back to reality … much more has to be done to get to that point my dear, therefore lifestyle and habit changes might be in the air to achieve your goals!

You might want to become a professional, a successful online entrepreneur or a stay at home mom, but in addition, happiness stays at the core of your being.

Let us begin at the beginning and plan your creation.

What are My Expectations of Life?


• Know my destination, what I want and how am I going to get there.

• Dedication and determination are important.

• Do my planning thoroughly.

Overcome obstacles.

• Learn to Separate

• High-income skills.


 Where am I going?

What are My Expectations of Life. Image f a notebook and girl planing and listing her goals in life.

Everything I want to achieve in life will need a plan with tons of preparation,  as a result, the more detail the better and then the execution thereof.

I have to work and simultaneously, earn money one way or the other to make a living. The best is to know where am I heading too, in other words, why is it so important and how am I going to achieve it. 

Effectively, the only way to get results is thinking, deciding and planning. Without this preparation and due dates, subsequently, nothing happens, my dear.

Putting myself and your future first no matter what!

What are My Expectations of Life?


Will be needed in huge quantities, therefore, discipline and hard work will be the key to get there. I will have to be very firm with myself and follow a tight working schedule, in other words, the lazy days are over.

Work hard when I am young to harvest the good fruits at old age.


What are My Expectations of Life. Girl holding a calendar open at the 1st January  to do her annual planing.

Thorough planning on a yearly, monthly, weekly and daily bases are necessary for reaching your goals. Above all keep, journals updated and keep proper records. Print it out and keep in physical files to keep track.

The same hard work and dedication a farmer has to go through to get meat or veggies on the table, it does not happen overnight, as a matter of fact, you will have this assignment to reach your goals. 

No magic wand, in other words, is a lengthy process before you can harvest the fruit of your labour. 

As a result, budget my time and money well, treat, myself to one night a week out with my friends and enjoy it.

What are My Expectations of Life?


  • Stay calm and overcome obstacles with logic, however, gain some knowledge on the subject.

  • Learn to think out the box.

  • Never complicate issues, first of all, see it for what it is.

  • See it for what it is and not what you think it is.

  • Turn those obstacles, most importantly, in advantages.

Find people who are trustworthy and wise to be close to you to form your support group. In your process, first of all, willing to helping you achieve your success.

I will need a reinforcement group of people for the rainy days. consequently, select experienced friends sincerely interested in your wellbeing, consequently, it will normally be older people in your life. Finding all the wisdom, guidance, support and sympathy in one person is a possibility, finally, keep a balance.


What are My Expectations of Life. Man caring boxes

Separate different occurrences and issues in life put everything that happens to you in a separate little box in your mind. Nothing has to do with each other only in the bigger picture.

If I had a flat tyre it was nobody’s fault. Fix it and move on! In other words, see it as an experience to learn from.

Close the box and file it in the archives of your mind, most importantly, don’t carry it with you the whole day. Moaning and groaning about it won’t change anything, it will only steal your joy!

What are My Expectations of Life.


You will have to armour yourself, furthermore, with high-income skills for a better income. In addition, do some self-study and research to gain more knowledge to become an expert in your field of interest, Know more than everybody else on the subject.

 What is a high-income skill? It is not a general skill acquired in everyday work, it will have to be unique and scares, for instance,  not a normal office worker but a copywriter, falling under a speciality group that is not common.

Choose a career in demand and develop it to the ultimate.

A desire to grow.

Making the right decisions.

Dedication and persistence are crucial for reaching your dreams and goals.


First of all, do planning relentlessly. Making those dreams and expectations come true is of the utmost importance.

There are two sides to enrich your life, my private life and my career. They might need different sets of expertise to develop but in addition, keep it separate.

Put each its own box,  personal life stays at home and business life stays at the office. Mixing them will bring a conflict of interest and divide my attention.

While on my way home after work out my career back in its box and close the lid, open my personal loving family box and start thinking about home.

When I get home I will feel so relaxed already. Do the same in the mornings, on my way to work leave my private life at home and think of the business day full of important decisions to make.

The aim of these letters is, first of all, to help to get you out the maze onto the high road to success as smoothly as possible.


Becoming a financially independent woman, inevitably, brings the confidence I need. Do the things I want to do the way I want to do it. On the other hand, being responsible in the process is necessary. This plays a huge role in my happiness and the feelings I want to achieve.

What are My Expectations of Life. Window with handwritten words of happiness. I LOVE MY LIFE!

I conclusion my dear, know where you are going and keep moving. Never stay at the crossroads and let all the others pass you.



In your journal:

• Decide what gives you a happy warm feeling and make a list of your expectations for your future.  Be realistic about your choices.

• Define your lifestyle and best of all, the way you want to live your precious life, my dear. Write your future life story, noteworthy, how your life is going to be.


Firstly find what gives you the happy and content feeling and how am I going to accomplish it.

What do I desire and, furthermore, want my life to be like?

Do I have expectations of life, and in addition, what are they?

Begin with the End in Mind, finally, start planning to reach those goals, my love.

Stop procrastinating!

Love you lots. 

Gran Stella.

Gran Stella



19 Comments on “Letter 1. What are My Expectations of Life.”

  1. Hi Stella,

    I love reading these letters to your granddaughter. Indeed, these letters serve as a guidance not just to her but also to those reading it. It is really true that every success starts at a good and strong foundation or base.
    Thanks for these letters.

    1. This niche has chosen me out of need Joyce it is good to know it will serve a greater purpose to more than just the teenagers. Thanks for your comment.
      Happy reading

  2. Wow! This is an amazing way to help you grandchild and getting others involved with great tips and tricks how to hack the code of life! Looking forward to read more.

    Have a great day!

    1. Thank you Fredrik! Felt very uneasy between all the serious factual sites. This niche has chosen me. I am already planning another site as an annexe of this one for all grannies to share their wisdom too….. like a go to information hub for the inexperienced.
      Happy reading.

  3. What a great idea. I love your letter and the principles you recommend are valuable throughout all phases of our lives. Planning, dedication, and hard work is the formula for success in every endeavour we undertake.

    1. Thank you Joe appreciate your kind comment. If young people will just realise how quick time goes by. Soon they will be at the age to retire and are still dreaming.
      Your summary is spot on those are the keys to your success.


  4. I love the advice. It is very sound. If young people would just heed the advice we give them and not think they know it all.

    1. We were all there, only want to do our own thing. If only one knows how much valuable time gets wasted.
      Successful young people are the ones who took advice early on.
      Thank you for commenting James I appreciate it.

    2. Hi James
      Don’t we all have that problem? If only ……
      I know the young ones don’t want to be told but soon they find out they don’t know it all and that is way I write these letters.
      It will always be there and they can come and read it in private whenever they need it, no one will know … lol
      Thank you for your comment

  5. Hi Gran Stella,

    Great post and idea! Love the concept. So many young people these days are lost and have no direction. Suffering through life as they stumble their way forward. Having a meaning and purpose is so important for the young (as well as the old!)

    Once they work out their meaning it becomes like a light house and guides them. Thanks for helping Thinette find her way! We all need a Gran Stella!


    1. It is so true but when you are that age, you know best and fun is more important.
      Lets hope this message will help more.
      The tragedy is no parent is educating their kids. They all get send out to the world thinking it is their oyster and someone else will do the work for them!
      Thanks for your comment.

  6. As I read this the first of what appears as a series of letters to her granddaughter I wish this had come from my grandmother about 60 years ago. Though some of what Stella writes is directed at young ladies a huge portion is meaningful to young men.

    Even now at almost 80 it si going to be interesting seeing how many points Stella presents that I can capture to apply to my own life experiences toward the goals I set for myself.

    1. Barry it is written to my granddaughter because it is all I have and really wanted to make it personal.
      I accept the challenge to see if I can teach the proverbial dog new tricks.
      Thank you for your valuable comment.

  7. Hey Stella,

    This is a wonderfully crafted and quite interesting read here. You succeed in depicting a powerful message that every youngster has to understand.

    1. Where I stay it is a need for the young to know these basics. If a parent does not teach them this at home where else will they get the knowledge from and sad to say most parents do not give this a second thought.
      Thank you for a very motivating comment.

  8. Thank you for the article. I’m 59 and still looking for my expectations in life. LOL! But you have a clear and concise plan for people to work and plan for their future. I enjoyed reading your article.

    1. Hi Daniel
      I believe very few people our age sat down and planned our future. Times were different. Now a days planning it important and necessary to survive let alone make a success.
      It is never to late, one can still do some planning for the rest of our time.
      Thank you for your comment.

  9. Stella, these letters are so original and really heart warming. What a wonderful way to communicate to your grandchildren the principles of life, work ethic and morality.

    1. Thank you Schalk for your comment. It will motivate me to carry on. It is the only way to get a message through to the young pepole. Letting them read it in secret!
      I appreciate it thank you!

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