According to the Oxford dictionary, Integrity means, “The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that you refuse to change.” What are these principles?
Living with Honesty and high Morals.
I would like to share this true story of, integrity the meaning, the failure to deliver and the consequences my dear. About a decade ago I had this experience with someone who was in trouble and without any money.
Reaching out and started helping, assisting with everything one needs to live. The person kept on reassuring, making promises that the problem will soon be solved, well it lasted the best of 14 years and drained all our funds. Debt amounts to a total of about $150 000 over the 14 years.
I was told only half-truths, promises upon promises and ‘next week’ became a slogan, consequently, it never came true.
After all our funds were depleted I asked friends and family to assist. They trusted me but my integrity became a question mark after a while.
What I have been taught at home, learning the importance of building a reputation of integrity and maintaining it all my life was ciphering away. My credibility came under scrutiny by family and friends, above all, they start doubting me.
It is very hard to earn it back my dear, but I know it will happen one day. I had to take responsibility for my bad choices and own them. Apologized to family and friends and was so grateful it was accepted.
Now I have to right the wrong done to family and friends, it feels as if it is my debt. I have to pay back because it was me asking. All was meant so well my dear but beware!
The lesson learned was, never trust blindly, and see if actions follow the words and are they realistic. Signs were there, but I kept on pushing it aside because of empathy.
It was half the truth and just empty promises. Telling me what I needed to hear without action to validate the words.
Now with that said I want to benchmark the importance of Integrity, being honest and to have strong morals. The lack thereof can have a huge impact on life.
What Is The Meaning Of Integrity
IN LOOKING FOR PEOPLE TO HIRE LOOK FOR THREE QUALITIES, INTEGRITY, INTELLIGENCE AND ENERGY. AND IF THEY DON’T HAVE THE FIRST, THE OTHER TWO WILL KILL YOU.
To become a person with integrity I have to make an informed decision to obey certain rules of values and ethics.
Let’s have a look:
The Behaviour of Integrity
How can I achieve it?
Ethical and moral principles to live by is essential. Do the right thing in all circumstances, even if no one is looking.
Always be true to oneself and do nothing that will dishonest or demeans who I am, even in private.
Be humble, be authentic don’t follow the crowd.
Have good judgment.
Apologize when needed.
Emotional intelligence is very important.
Keep promises, even if it takes extra time and effort.
Never betray someone’s trust.
Do not talk badly or gossip about other people.
Ignore someone’s advice to illegally cheat on the system and taxes.
Never let someone else takes the blame for something I did.
Remain true to my loved one.
Don’t keep secrets in a committed relationship.
Keep confidential information confidential.
Have a quality of fairness that inspires, everybody admires it. Have a moral compass that never goes off course.
Small Everyday Things
Go back to the shop to pay for something is accidentally taken and walk out with without paying.
Return money if someone drops it, without wanting a reward.
Inform the cashier when given back too much change.
Push the shopping trolley back to where it belongs.
” LIVE IN SUCH A WAY THAT IF SOMEONE SPOKE BADLY OF YOU, NO ONE WILL BELIEVE IT.”
How do I demonstrate it?
Live and demonstrate values in all relationships, may it be with a loved one, coworkers, customers, stakeholders or the man in the street.
Honesty and Trust are cornerstones to Integrity. People who demonstrate these values draw others to them because they are trustworthy and dependable.
How to Incorporate Integrity
No matter what, keep commitments whatever the circumstances may be.
Keep my word. Let my No be my No and my Yes be my Yes, there is no such thing as a maybe.
Deliver on Promises, no empty compromises.
Pay attention to the environment, be organized, no mess only footprints left behind.
Stay focused do not get distracted by temptations or other opportunities. Give what I am busy with all my attention, keep going until the results I have set upon are done.
Be surrounded with honest trustworthy people. People with the same philosophy and a positive attitude because you become like the people closest to you.
Respect for yourself leads to respect to other people. Everybody deserves respect until proven otherwise, it has a domino effect, Everybody will start respecting themselves and each other.
Dependability. Show up on time and never be late. Be someone who can be expected to deliver what has been promised on, in time, rather over-deliver.
“You are in integrity when your life you are living on the outside matches who you are on the inside.” Alan Cohan
A dependable person is someone who you can count on, are trustworthy and will honour their commitments.
INTEGRITY THE MEANING OF BEING RELIABLE
Do actions agree with words?
There’s your measure of reliability.
Never confine yourself to the words’
A reliable person is someone who has consistently proven to do the right thing at the right time, actions follow his words. Is a very hard worker and are always there when needed.
“DON’T BE RELIABLE ONLY WHEN IT IS CONVENIENT.”
What Is The Meaning of
Honesty and Truth
To be able to see reality and the real facts without any emotion. When I speak the truth, act truthfully and never lie. An honest person does not do things that are morally wrong, even when I am alone.
Respect begins with self-respect. Only if you respect yourself you can respect others. Be kind, helpful, considerate, in other words, have Emotional Intelligence. Acknowledge every person’s value. The way I think or speak of somebody shows integrity, rather keep quiet than speak badly of someone.
Respect has to be earned by behaviour.
“THE MOMENT YOU TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE IS THE MOMENT YOU CAN CHANGE ANYTHING IN YOUR LIFE.” Hal Elrod.
Have a duty to feel responsible for something or somebody who needs it. Make a decision, take responsibility for actions and accept the consequences, above all be a person who keeps promises and commitments.
To be Loyal and faithful to people in life shows stability and are dependable.
A loyal person is devoted and always there when needed, it is an act of will.
IT TAKES 20 YEARS TO BUILD A REPUTATION AND 5 MINUTES TO RUIN IT. IF YOU THINK OF THAT, YOU’LL DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY. Warren Buffet.
Reputation gets determined by your behaviour and acts. It can be good or bad. Being kind and trustworthy gives you a good reputation.
“A true leader has the confidence to stand alone, the courage to make tough decisions, and the compassion to listen to the needs of others. He does not set out to be a leader but becomes one by the equality of his actions and the integrity of his intent.” Douglas MacArthur
A good leader have courage to make the choices and decisions to lead others. To guide, assist and help, to be of serves is important. To be a good leader you have to have compassion. Develop Emotional Intelligence is part of the deal.
When you read through all of this my darling you can detect a thin line linking all the components. One is not possible without the other.
Our older generation grew up with all these skills, it was very important and the norm. Part of everyday life, as a matter of fact, some families still do it but are rare.
There were those who did not live by these unwritten rules of life, as a result, being marked as untrustworthy and to be aware of.
I believe you grew up with the same basic set of skills. Integrity means less stress and more freedom. A feeling of peace that leads to more happiness.
The question is, is it still in practice in society and in business? If people turn back to these basics skills, everybody will have a better quality of life and be more successful in an honest way.
The Meaning Of Integrity
This is a recipe for total freedom of the thoughts that leads to success.
INTEGRITY GIVES YOU REAL FREEDOM BECAUSE YOU HAVE NOTHING TO FEAR SINCE YOU HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE.
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