Letter 2. Who Are You?



Darling Thinette

Who Are You?

Ask yourself: Do I like the person I am, is it really me?

Would I like to be my own best friend?

Am I the person, looking back at me in the mirror, who I really want to be?

Do I think I really am who I think I am?

Today it is all about finding who you really are deep inside my dear.

~  Who am I?

~  Do I like the person in the mirror?

~ What defines me and, most of all, what dictates my values?

Who you are will, inevitably,  have a great influence on your mission and goals in your life. The foundation is already laid at home, school and college. Now is the time to add the finishing touches, likewise, reinvent who you want to be, along, with your own twist to it. 

The practical world out there has certain rules and demands, subsequently, it will have particular influences and impacts, on the development of the new advanced You. Above all, do not let society dictate who you want to be.

Who Are You?


• Define your personality type.

• Changing habits.

• Where do weaknesses come from?

• How to conquer it all.

• Valuable Characteristics.


No, it is not your name, address, phone or family ties, these are your official information for statistics. We are going to delve deeper than skin deep to find the real Thinette and, in the process, what makes her happy.

Get to your emotions and, most certainly, what is it You want, no matter. There is only one chance we all have, furthermore, one life, giving it the best, creating happiness.

Remember, in Your world, You are the most important person. Protecting your persona, you inevitably, have to establish a strong Self. Always find your position first, and after that, find a solution from an advantage point. Start by loving yourself, even more, all of yourself. 

In every situation, find your position, best of all, it should be top of the list.  Get answers from that point, first of all, how you see it.

Start with “I am Thinette, and are currently a PA at a company …

Teaching kids at a school or managing L&M Industries or,

I Thinette am married to Jack. Do you get it, love?

Filling a position at work or at home does not define you. It is never about the title nor position. Every position in life is temporary and nothing is certain, only You are forever.

To protect yourself you have, first of all, to know your identity and be true to it at all times.

Who are You?


Let’s determined what personality type you are:

• Are you a positive, outgoing, bubbly, person seeing the glass as half full, for that reason, always see the bright side of life and fun to be with?

Who Are You? Thinette being positive outgoing and bubbly

• In contrast, never satisfied, always negative, moaning, grumpy, nagging and demanding?

Whoa Are You? Thinette feeling grumpy

• Afraid, shy, anti-social, therefore, lonely with very little confidence?

• Honest, sincere, trustworthy, as a result, confident and happy?

• Not always telling the truth, cheating, in addition, depending on others to make you happy and do things for you, always knowing better?

• Sporty, artistic or musical, in other words, do you have a hobby?

Who Are You? Girl sitting outside playing her guitar

• Are you a good listener, and at the same time, can you hold a good conversation, knowing what goes on in the world and be interesting?

• Self-centred, boring, shallow-minded, and as a result, housing a small mind and a small world?

• Do you have good friends, most importantly, what are they like and what do they say about you?

Who Are You? Party with friends

Mark all the ones you recognize in yourself, and at the same time, mark the ones you want to change.

Decide who you want the new Thinette to be, in short, start changing old bad habits.


It is said that you, subsequently,  can change habits in twenty-one days with repetitive action.

Find the habit that will be the easiest to change, for instance, replace it with your new behaviour. 

Practice the new behaviour every time, certainly, never thinking to go back to the old bad habit.

Repeat until you feel comfortable it has become part of your new lifestyle, after that, move to the next.

These new chosen characteristics must become your lifestyle now, to a happy and confident Thinette.

Find Who You Are.


Be honest with yourself is one thing, but, never easy to admit.

• There might be a few weaknesses, certainly, hiding in a corner my dear. How about miss Procrastination, Lazy Lady, miss Party Animal, miss TV Monster, or Internet games champion, etc.

Who are you  Girl lying on blanket with dog being lazy

To really become successful you, admittedly, have to face all the gremlins and get rid of them one by one. Find your own way to do it, but, the best way is to cut them by their knees immediately. Only go around picking them up when your PLANNED GOALS  FOR THE DAY IS MET.

Be very strict with yourself.

• There might be a more serious issue. It might be something an adult or a friend, probably, said years ago, and you still drag it with you.

See it for what it is, as a matter of fact, the other person might have been insecure and just said it to hurt or draw you down. It might be a failure you, subsequently, can’t accept.


Now is the time to get rid of them all, first of all, you won’t need the memory any more.  Sit back and, finally, see it in perspective.

Analyse, moreover, see it for what it was. Say to yourself, you have grown past them, therefore, put it in a box and throw it in the dustbin.

Get rid of it, most importantly, it doesn’t matter anymore.

Make the decision to turn that into a motivating factor to show who you really are.

Forget about any weaknesses, erase it from your memory and turn it into a positive, let it make you a stronger person.

Be your best self!

Find Who You Are


Your emotions and feelings are determined by your subconscious mind which in return is the keeper of your happiness.

Remember your behaviour and your thoughts feed your unconscious mind and that mirrors your mood and your feelings.

By having an open-heart, being honest, sincere, truthful and caring you feed your unconscious mind and spirit what it needs.  Most of all you are projecting the emotional healthiness which makes you a happy person.

Who are You?


The most valuable sought after characteristics you want to have are honesty, trustworthiness,  being dependable, positive and a good listener.

Follow these principles and you will be a confident person with integrity which everybody can depend on.

No money in the world can buy that my dear.



Next page in your journal.

•Your personality characteristics,  make a list of those you would want to have and write down your plan of action on how to get it … become a warm loving caring person.

• Find your weaknesses, write them down see them for what they are and find your solution how to conquer them.


This is now your chance to develop the person you want to be.  Find your personality type and make some habit changes to become the new warm happy caring person you want to be.

Happiness will follow you wherever you go, just get up and get started.

Your loving Gran Stella.

Gran Stella


19 Comments on “Letter 2. Who Are You?”

  1. Hi Stella,

    Nice letter! I had read your first letter where you mentioned that foundation is vital to everyone’s success.
    This second letter about the influences coming from the environment or society surrounding us is also very true. However, it is really up to us to choose.

  2. I appreciate your comments on all the letters thanks for your time reading it.
    Yes our success, all boils down to the choices we make and there are only two you can chose from. It is either a Yes or a No to any situation.
    Happy reading

  3. Hello Stella.
    These guidelines are great to build a steady life upon! I enjoy reading every sentience and I know this will be helpful for your granddaughter!

    1. It is hard to reach the young to help with their lives and this was the only way I could think of.
      Thank you for your valuable contribution.

    2. Thank you Fredrik!
      There is no where where the kids can learn these lessons and guidance. Hope this will become a hub of info for them.
      Happy reading.

  4. What a great experience Stella’s granddaughter will have if she will save these letters and from time to time look back at them as she grows in the reality of life.

    I recently came across a short letter from my paternal grandfather written the day I was born back in 1939. It still had the envelope postmarked on my birthday. It was nothing like these letters, but is still meaningful to me.

    I think I will change a few of the words Stella has used for my own personal use as guide to help me (like change young lady to young man…please don’t laugh at this old man for tongue in cheek statement…LOL)

    1. At the moment she is still running out there, and will hopefully see the light sometime soon before it is too late … lol
      What a wonderful experience it must have been to find that precious letter, that is really remarkable.
      I will have to think about the way I address the reader …
      Thank you for your comment.

  5. These are some very wise words Stella! I’m in my thirties and the past few years have been real eye openers for me. I have learned more about myself, my core values and what is important to me than ever before in my life.

    I guess it’s called growing up. I just wish I figured much of this stuff out earlier, this would have saved me from lots of anxiety, grief and bad decisions. Then again I feel like some people never seem to grow up.

    And to be perfectly clear, by growing up I don’t mean stop having fun. On the contrary actually!
    I mean things like being responsible and taking other people into consideration and putting your families and loved ones needs before your own most of the time.

    Keep up the good work! This here is stuff that should be taught in schools. One wisdom I would like to share with anyone reading this: Nothing in life is black and white. Not in relationships, not in politics, not in religion. There’s always common ground if you are willing to see it and question your own perspective.

    1. Hi Jukka I would rather call it maturing. We all go through lows in our lives it is then that maturity developes.
      You speak very wise words there!
      We are so much the same that the differences almost doesn’t count.

  6. Hi Stella. Thinette is a lucky girl to be able to receive such wisdom from her granny. It’s so important that we first find out who we are and then, as you say, we can mold and shape ourselves into who we wish to become. So many people get lost, hurt and defeated because of what others around them say about them, but you are right when you say that we cannot let someone else’s opinions drag us down. It is they who are speaking and acting based on their own insecurities, fears, and pain, and it is not about us at all. Be strong, be secure, and be clear about who we are and we will have a rich and fulfilling life.
    Thanks for sharing.

    1. It is so sad to see how lost they are without realising it. Group pressure is a major culprit. If they will just realise they are being used to boost others insecurities.
      Lets hope a few will get ‘saved’ with these letters.
      Thank you your comments inspire me to get more posts out soon.


  7. Hi Stella,

    great letter. Thinette is getting the best advice. Knowing who you are in this world is super important. Going deeply inside yourself really shows your true self. I find this easiest when I meditate. I go to another world and become very present and find peace and clarity.

    Keep up the great work, look forward to reading more 🙂


    1. Thank you Kevin yes knowing who you are lies at the core of your being and dictates the rest.
      What a wonderful idea to meditate, will recommend that to her.
      Happy reading

  8. Oh Stella, what a post, I wish my grandmother had written me some letters that I could read and help me through the foolishness of youth.
    Don’t get me wrong, my grandmother used to talk to me when I was young, she still does but, when we are young we really don’t listen, but a written word is powerful because you can always go back and read it again and again.
    Thank you so much, I hope more young people will read your letters because they are filled with wisdom

    1. Thank you for motivating words Rose!
      Everybody goes through that silly stage running around after all the new found freedom.
      After a while the novelty wears off and reality sinks in.
      It is for that moment I would hope this will make sense to them.

      1. Exactly, the thing is the young ones are so much in a hurry to grow up, they don’t even enjoy their childhood because they just want to grow up already.
        then they do like I did, and now I wish I had taken time to just enjoy childhood and find out more about who I was and who I wanted to become.

        1. So true Rose and they don’t want to start from the bottom of up. They want to take off from where their parents are, they want it all and now. It is a good thing to learn lessons from own experiences, it makes you appreciate life more.

  9. Hi Stella,

    I really enjoyed reading your letter, there’s so much wisdom in it. I agree it’s very important to be true to yourself and in my opinion, it is the key to happiness. I bookmarked your website and look forward to reading some more. All the best!

    1. Blanka I appreciate your kind words. As you say be uniquely you … don’t let peer pressure influence your development.
      Thank you for stopping by.

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